You Have To Learn To Value Yourself And Let Go Of Anyone Who Doesn't

Dec 07, 2018 by apost team

Did you ever change your mind about something really important? Did you see the world one way your whole life and then realize the way you were seeing it was wrong? Well, that happened to me.

I used to think I had to hold on to people. All my life, I believed that. Once someone became a part of my life, I thought I had to work hard to keep them there. But I was wrong! I got hurt so many times. I trusted people and opened my heart to them. Many times, they didn't deserve my trust. They broke my heart, took advantage of my trust, and betrayed me. Has this happened to you too?

I thought when I loved someone, they would love me back. I was so naive! Now that I understand what people are really like, I can see it was my own fault. It hurt so much when I gave everything I had in my heart to someone, and that person just used me in return. I didn't understand why they didn't love me back. I had so much love to give!

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Over and over, I would love someone who didn't love me back. When that happened, instead of pulling back, I just tried harder. I thought if I loved them even more, then they would finally love me too. The more love I gave, though, the worse they treated me. I felt trapped. I thought if they didn't love me, I wasn't being good enough. The harder I tried, the more they used me, and the worse I felt. Finally, I couldn't go on like that any more. I was exhausted. I didn't want to do anything. I had no more love to give. I felt empty.

That was a low point in my life, but it turned out to be a turning point that set me going in a much better direction. At first, it was hard to be alone. Slowly, though, I realized that when I put so much energy into loving other people, I hadn't been loving myself. I learned many other things during that period of my life. I learned that some people are not good for me, even if I love them. I learned that it's okay to let people go, that I don't have to hold onto someone forever when they are bad for me.

Some people will never love me, no matter how much I love them, how much I do for them, and how much I try to make them happy. That's just the way they are. These are hard lessons. I wish I didn't have to learn them, but that's the way life is. We all have to face the truth at some point if we want to live a full and happy life. I learned that I am really a wonderful person. I have many great qualities. I don't deserve to be mistreated by someone who can't see that.

I also learned that my worth does not depend on what other people think about me. If they can't see me as I really am, that's their problem. I feel much steadier now that I understand my worth stays the same no matter who comes and goes in my life. At first, I was very upset when I realized how many people had used me and couldn't return my love. I felt better when I realized that there are good people too. There are people who will love me no matter what. Now I know that I have to find the right people, the ones who will love me. There is no room in my life for the users and abusers.

It's been a hard journey. I hope that you can learn from my experiences. Maybe that will make it easier for you. The sooner you stop letting bad people stay in your life, the sooner you will attract the people who are able to return your love. The first step is to let go of the people who don't appreciate you. You have to do this no matter how much you love them.

This will be hard, especially at first. You have to do it, though, to protect your own heart. Remind yourself that you have a big, loving heart. You will just get hurt if you keep on giving your heart to those who can't see its magnificence. You have to take care of yourself. Honor your own heart. Don't give it away until you know the other person will return your love no matter what happens.

When you take good care of yourself, then you will attract the best people into your life. If you are feeling hurt a lot, then people who are looking for someone to hurt will sense that and come running. You don't want that!

Everyone will get hurt sometimes, but if you are getting hurt over and over, that's a sign you need to take better care of yourself. That way, you will attract loving people who also take good care of themselves. I feel so much better now. Learning how to let people go is the best thing that ever happened to me. I feel stronger and more confident every day.

This did not happen overnight for me, and it probably won't for you either. It takes time to change the patterns you have followed so many times before. Be patient. The end result feels so good. It is worth however much time it takes. It's hard to let go, but amazing things will happen once you free up that space in your life where the unloving people used to be.

What do you think? Has this happened to you? Do you give all your love to people who use you? Have you stopped doing that, or is it still happening? Let us know, and be sure to send this to friends who might benefit from reading this!