Woman Who Used To Judge Stay-At-Home Moms Tearfully Says 'I Get It Now'

May 08, 2020 by apost team

There are people out in the world who might think that being a stay-at-home mom is all about playing with angelic kids and going for walks in the park. In reality, it is a difficult uphill battle every day, and one Wisconsin woman named Bridgette Anne wanted the world to know about it by writing a Facebook post. In an interview with apost.com in 2020, Bridgette Anne tells us about the stay-at-home mom struggle.

She started the post off with the assumptions that people have about stay-at-home moms (or SAHMs as she calls them).

"☝️ everyone thinks being a stay at home mom full time is easy.

— that we are lucky to be able to not have to work.
— that we are lazy.
— that it’s not “real” work so we have nothing to complain about."

Then she introduces the actual reality of the situation.

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What people might not know is that it's both a lonely time as well as a time where you never really get time to yourself. Bridgette writes that you can't sit by yourself and have a cup of coffee without your child clamoring for your attention. Bridgette admitted that when she wants to talk to someone, she only has her boyfriend, whom. she is afraid she 'burdens' with her emotions and problems. 

She then went on to speak to apost.com about her post and the response she's gotten:

"If I’m being 100 percent honest, there really wasn’t any process to making my post. I just realized I was crying and overwhelmed, and I really didn’t have anyone to call. I felt alone and guilty for feeling the way I did, and I guess I just wanted some validation that it’s normal to feel like that some days."

"The feedback within my personal life has been overwhelmingly positive! I have had people who I have lost touch with reach out, and I have found a place of balance and a local support system again."

"You struggle to come up with ways to entertain someone for literally 12 hours a day every day. You wear the same clothes that smell like sweat and tears for days."

Bridgette admitted that although she used to judge SAHMs in the past, she is humbled by her own experience. "...I get it now," she said." The people who said they’d be there to help have all but disappeared, and you’re left with this overwhelming sense of failure."

Following her own experience, Bridgette has some advice for all her fellow SAHM's out there. "The best and worst times of your life will be found in these years. Your emotions and limits will be tested in ways you couldn’t imagine, but your heart, your patience, your compassion will grow beyond you wildest belief. But when those bad days come— those really bad days, don’t be afraid to talk about it!!"

"For any soon to be or future parents; don’t let this message scare you— but let it prepare you for the fact that you will have days like this one. Everyone talks about all the good times, the fun moments; but don’t be afraid to ask your parents, your parent friends, grandparents— about the bad times; the times they screamed in the bathroom, and just don’t be afraid to prepare yourself to the non traditional moments people don’t usually talk about!"

Read Bridgette's entire Facebook post by clicking here. 

After you have read Bridgette's emotional post, it might be a good time to do as she suggests and check-in on a stay-at-home mom in your life. As she says, "check in on your SAHM friends....we are NOT okay." Let us know what you think about Bridgette's post, and pass this article on to stay-at-home mothers who might relate.