Woman Upsets Her Boyfriend After Refusing To Quit Her Job And Move So He Can Have New Job

May 18, 2021 by apost team

Relationships require a lot of compromises, especially when it comes to decisions like where to live. One couple, both age 27, have been struggling to find the right solution to their problems. The boyfriend has been having a hard time at work and wanted to move a couple of hours away, so they did. 

Then the boyfriend decided that his new job wasn't good for him either, and he wanted to be close to his family, so the couple moved for a second time. Now, the girlfriend has finally adjusted to her new home and job and feels happy, but her boyfriend has declared he wants to move for a third time because he hates his new job and is miserable. This time she refused, and now he is angry and has been treating her poorly, she claimed.

The main reason the girlfriend decided she did not want to move again is that she has found a job that fulfills her and finally made friends in her boyfriend's hometown. She feels he is being unreasonable by asking to move for the third time. The girlfriend then decided to make a post on Reddit in February 2021 asking for advice to determine if she was in the wrong for her choice. She said she worries she is in the wrong because her boyfriend pays the majority of the bills. 

Most of the users who commented on the post felt that the girlfriend was in the right and said her boyfriend was being manipulative by treating her poorly when he did not get his way. Many people urged her to rethink the relationship and make decisions based on what is best for her and not only her boyfriend. 

To fully understand the situation, it is essential to remember that the girlfriend agreed to move twice before. She wrote in her Reddit post, "Almost a year after moving, I worked at the same chain of hotel, same position, same hours. (He) started coming home frustrated at his work schedule, and was having problems with the supervisor." 

The girlfriend continued, "At first, I was not for it. I was super close with my family and I had never lived more than a 2-hour drive away. He complained about work and made me feel bad he was away from his family. I gave in after he told me if we moved, he'd be ready to have kids." This is now the second time the boyfriend has asked to move because he is unhappy at his workplace.

Still, the girlfriend gave in to his wishes. "We both quit our jobs and moved 7 hours north to his hometown and have been staying at his dad's… When we moved here, I was so depressed. I barely left the house. I had no friends or family close by. Over time I made friends through (him), his family became my family, I made friends at work and I'm happy! I can see making a life with a family here," she said in her post.

Now, the boyfriend wants to move for a third time because he is still unhappy at work. "The issue is, he wants to go back to working at his last company after they built a shop 2 hours away from us, saying he knows he had it good there. This means that I'd have to quit my job so he can work on trucks. I'm afraid that if we move, I'll get depressed again," the girlfriend wrote. 

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After the girlfriend said she would not move again, their relationship has been strained. "I would do anything to make him happy, but I feel like I changed my life around enough to make him happy. He acts like I'm being selfish and ungrateful that he pays most of the bills. Now he doesn't have good days at work and 'hates his life' and gets mad at me for the little things," she wrote at the end of the post. 

The post has been gaining popularity on Reddit, and 550 users stopped to leave comments on the post. One person wrote, "There are only so many times you can uproot your whole life for your boyfriend. Also, him using kids as leverage to get you to do something is an awful move on his part."

Others suggested the boyfriend's behavior was harmful and that she should consider breaking up. "This seems like a relationship (the girlfriend) needs to rethink. Relationships aren't supposed to be one-sided. He doesn't seem to care how she feels about something and even used kids as a way to manipulate her to change her mind," another commenter wrote.

One other person suggested that the boyfriend may be the common issue among all of his jobs. "This guy is never happy. Anyone who is constantly getting into it and 'feeling disrespected' with multiple supervisors/workplaces is probably the one with the problem. She needs to rethink this whole deal." As of yet, the girlfriend has not given an update on the situation.

Who do you think was right in this situation? Should the girlfriend have agreed to move again? Let us know your thoughts, and be sure to send this on to your friends and family.