Woman Can’t Accept Her Sister’s ‘Inexcusable’ Choice To Name Her Baby After Her Daughter Who Passed Away

Jan 16, 2023 by apost team

Losing a child is never easy, especially when you are constantly being reminded of them. A woman was pregnant with twins a few years ago, but unfortunately, only one baby survived. The parents had already given a name to their daughter who had passed away and cherished it, along with the short memories they had.

The woman and her sister had gotten along pretty well growing up but had drifted apart as the years progressed. The woman had a few issues with her sister, specifically, in more recent years, as they had gotten into a handful of fights and had many complications between the two of them for a variety of reasons. Their rivalry had only gotten worse when the woman met her now-husband, and all the events that followed within their family since.

For the most part, the issues had been instigated by the sister. Most recently, the two have continued to have problems as the sister decided to name her own baby the same name as the woman’s deceased daughter. Even though the woman was clearly upset about her sister’s decision, their family sided with the sister.

The mother who lost her daughter took to Reddit on July 24, 2021, to post about her issues with her sister and her sister’s choice of picking the same baby name that she had picked first for her own daughter. The post received plenty of views and comments but has since been locked, leading to OP editing her post to further explain her story, and talk about the final decision she has made regarding the whole situation.

At the beginning of her Reddit post, the original poster (OP) explained that she had changed all of the names listed. She named her son Henry and her daughter who had passed Daphne. The woman’s sister had instigated their rivalry, specifically after the OP met her current partner. OP and her partner got engaged before her sister did, even though they hadn’t been together for as long as her sister and sister’s partner. After the sister finally got engaged, “she threw an engagement party on the night before my wedding,” OP explained.

The sister was once again upset when OP got pregnant first. “...But when my daughter died she seemed to be a lot nicer,” the woman explained. The sister eventually got pregnant but kept her child’s name a secret until after she was born. The daughter’s name was Theodora but would go by the nickname Daphne. Shocked, the woman wrote, “All my family knew and supported her.” She continued, “I got upset and started shouting, asking if it was a cruel prank.” Angry, the sister expressed that OP did not own the name, and the family has since taken the sister’s side. They have called her “petty and cruel,” but OP refused to apologize.

“I will not be reaching out to any of the family any time soon,” the woman wrote in the post’s edited version. OP also said that her sister always had issues with her. “She always made it known I do not deserve the things I have,” she wrote. Since the sister had always been seen as the “golden child,” the family has stuck by her, leaving OP hurt and frustrated. She concluded, “I have come to terms with it and I no longer feel like I need the negativity in my life.”

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The Reddit community was quick to side with OP and said her sister’s behavior was irredeemable. Many also urged OP to cut ties with her family as they were toxic.

“What a heartbreaking experience to endure. And what an awful family. It's sad, but your sister has it out for you. Make no mistake: what she is doing here is inexcusable and kind of sadistic. You are her sister. Not some distant acquaintance. The very thought of my own sister treating me like this makes me feel ill. This is the action of someone who wants to hurt you. It's deliberately cruel. I think for your own sake you need to ask yourself if you need someone like this in your life. I don't know the backstory here but I can't think of anything that could justify this kind if behaviour. And the fact that your family supports her in this is a big clue about where this cruelty stems from,” a sympathetic commenter wrote.

Another said: “We bond before we meet them. You may not have met your little one but they were a part of you and special. It both enrages and saddens me that OP's family are basically erasing OP's little girl. She's family too and just as important. I too hope OP has the ability to cut them off. It's not an easy thing to do but they are thoroughly toxic.”

Meanwhile, another commenter had a quirky resolution to the entire situation. “OP needs to name a dog after sis. Sis is dead to her now, so her name should be fair game right? A dog would be more pleasant too,” the comment read.

What do you think about this Reddit post? Is OP right to be upset that her sister is using her deceased daughter’s name? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your friends and family, too.