Woman Calls Her Sister To Babysit Because ‘No One Else Can’, She Arrives And Sees Their Dad Is Just Hanging Out At Home
Jul 20, 2021 by apost team
No one would ever consider a mother caring for her children “babysitting,” so the same should be true for the father. Parenting, like marriage, is a partnership and it requires that both parents take responsibility when caring for their children. One teenage girl made a post on Reddit in July 2021 sharing a conflict she is having with her sister and her sister’s husband over babysitting their kids while he stays home and plays video games.
The Reddit poster said her sister called one day and said there was an emergency at her workplace and she needed her teenage sister to watch her children because there was “no one else.” When she arrived she saw that the husband was at home, but was refusing to take care of the children.
The husband said he can’t “babysit” his kids because it is his only day off from his part-time work-from-home job. The teenage sister also shared that he is rarely the one to take care of the children, and typically they go to daycare while their mother is working, or to their grandmother’s house.
The younger sister stayed, and she took care of the kids despite the husband being home. A moment came when she had to change the baby’s diaper and the other children needed a snack as well, so she told them to go ask their dad for some help. He refused and ended up sending them back to their aunt who was still trying to change the diaper. She finished and got the other kids a snack, and when she had a moment to speak to the father in private she told him that he was acting useless.
The girl recounted on Reddit, “I kind of snapped at him and told him it was my day off too and that he’s a useless father and husband if his wife has to rely on her teenage sister rather than her own husband. He started telling me I was disrespectful and didn’t understand how hard parenting is, and I told him he clearly doesn’t understand how hard it is either since he considers parenting his own children ‘babysitting.’”
This really upset her sister’s husband and he kicked her out of the house. He then made her sister leave work early to take care of the children instead.
The younger sister added, “I definitely didn’t need to call him names but I just hate this guy so much. We have argued about things in the past as well so we already don’t have a great relationship. My sister is saying I need to apologize to him and he is threatening to never let me into the kids' lives if I keep disrespecting him.”
Turning to Reddit for advice, the girl posted her story and asked other users if she was in the wrong. One person replied:
“Your sister had to leave work because her husband kicked you out…..even though he was literally right there for the kids. Her husband is utterly useless and she needs a reality check. Me, personally, if I showed up just to find out the husband was there but didn’t want to ‘babysit’ his kids I would have turned right back around. That’s not an emergency, that’s enabling.”
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