Woman Asks Husband To Take Paternity Test To Find Out If He Fathered Their Friend's Kid

Oct 26, 2021 by apost team

Trust is one of the most important qualities to have in a relationship. It’s a foundation to keeping a relationship together and helping it thrive in the future. Without trust, you may start to doubt your significant other and become more and more paranoid about what they’re doing, where they’re going and who they’re hanging out with.

A woman went to Reddit in August 2020 to express some concerns she was having about her marriage and ask users for their advice. One of her friends had a baby boy, but the baby’s father was not in the picture, so much in fact that no one even knew who he was or what he looked like. As the child grew a bit older, the original Reddit poster (OP) realized that her husband looked extremely similar to the baby. 

She had been in some bad relationships in the past where she had been cheated on, and her old insecurities and doubts began to take over. The woman and her husband were both close friends with the single mom, and she couldn’t help but wonder if her husband was actually the baby’s father. The timing worked out and the baby looked so incredibly similar to her husband that it was hard for OP to not jump to conclusions.

OP’s paranoia got the best of her and she made her husband take a paternity test. Since then, everything has gone completely downhill in her marriage and in her friendship with the single mom. Read on to find out more about this difficult situation.

Starting off her Reddit post, OP explained that one of her best friends had a baby about three years ago from a one night stand. The man explained that he had no interest in being a father, so OP’s friend raised the baby on her own. The father is so far removed from the child’s life that no one has ever even seen a picture of him, not even OP.

OP explained, “The issue is this: this kid looks EXTREMELY like my husband, like to an insane degree. The hair color, eyes, face, everything.” They look so similar that sometimes people even mistake OP’s husband for the baby’s actual father. OP had been suspicious for the past three years since her husband and her friend are so close and the timeline works out; they were all living in the same neighborhood around the time the friend got pregnant.

OP’s paranoia got the best of her. “It kept spiraling until I had a meltdown and confronted both of them, saying that I will pack up and leave if I don’t see a paternity test,” she said. The husband and the friend were shocked that she would even think they would do something like this to her, but went along with the test.

Even though it turned out that OP’s husband wasn’t the father, her relationship with her husband and her friendship with the single mom have taken a turn for the worse. Her friend told her their friendship was over, and she was left on the brink of feeling like her marriage was also falling apart.

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OP explained, “I feel so ashamed to lose my friend but I thought my husband would slightly understand since even he sees the obvious resemblance between him and this kid. But he has moved out for the time being and I’m worried this is the end of our marriage.” She really felt like she had no other choice but to make her husband take the paternity test. Therapy wasn’t helping, and her history of cheating exes only made her personal doubts worse. 

OP asked Redditors if she was wrong and if they could give her any advice. The majority of Reddit users agreed that OP was definitely wrong for insinuating something like this and making her husband and friend go along with the paternity test.

One user said, “You made her get the test because you needed to know and now you know. You can’t blame them for both being hurt.” Another Redditor commented, “This whole thing doesn’t add up for me. OP accuses everyone of affairs/hiding a child etc. and they… don’t call her crazy and cut off contact until… after the paternity test comes back negative? Aren’t paternity tests like a multi-week process?”

A third user responded, “I didn’t see anything to indicate that you had reason to suspect your husband of cheating on you with your best friend, but you went ahead and dynamited that whole bridge anyway. I don’t really see how any self-respecting person could maintain a friendship, much less a marriage, with someone who so easily thought they were having an affair.”

What do you think about this situation? Do you think this woman was right to ask her husband to take a paternity test to see if he was the father of their friend’s baby? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your friends and family, too.