Wife Doesn’t Allow Husband To Buy His Son A Birthday Present — People Say It’s Selfish And Heartless

Dec 01, 2021 by apost team

Being in a relationship can be difficult at times. At some point or another, couples are usually forced to find a compromise with each other when they’re stuck in a tricky situation, like cutting back on going out to eat as much if they’re trying to save up for something really expensive. This is a similar situation one woman found herself in with her husband.

The 29-year-old woman and her 30-year-old husband have been together for six years and married for four of those years. After about a year of dating, she found out that he had a son with a previous partner, but he didn’t see him very often. In fact, it seemed like the most amount of communication the two had was whenever the husband would give his son a birthday present.

Wanting to take the next step in their relationship, the woman and her husband had been saving up to buy a house together. They were extremely close to reaching their goal and had been working hard at not spending money on anything that was unnecessary. When it came time for the husband to buy his son his birthday present, the woman was confused. She didn’t see why he had to since they barely had a relationship and since he needed to save as much money as possible to put toward the new house.

This has since caused a lot of tension between the couple, resulting in the woman going to Reddit in late November of 2021 to ask users for their honest advice.

Starting off her Reddit post, the original poster (OP) explained that she’s known her husband for seven years and that they’ve been together for six years, four of which they have been married. Around a year into dating, she found out that her husband had a son when he was 19.

She explained, “I wasn’t aware of this because he had no custody of his son because he didn’t really want major responsibility at the time and his baby’s mother was OK with that, but he has always sent his son birthday and Christmas gifts, and has sometimes gone to special events, and over the course of the time I’ve known him, he’s definitely gotten more into his fatherly role.”

For about a year, OP and her husband have been working hard at saving as much money as possible to put toward a new house. They cut back on their spending and got pretty close to saving up enough for a house they want. However, OP felt like there was a wrench in their plans.

Her husband was planning on buying a Nintendo Switch and some games for it to give to his son for his birthday, but OP didn’t think this was necessary. “My husband was confused and said it was a birthday gift for his son,” OP said. “I said it was an expensive purchase, especially seeing as we’re saving up right now, and that he isn’t that involved in his son’s life anyway so why should he have to buy him gifts.”  

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OP continued, “My husband said I don’t understand because I don’t have any kids of my own, especially not ones I don’t see, and I don’t understand the situation.” Since then, there’s been some tension between OP and her husband. They somewhat moved on from the conversation, but she noticed that her husband still seemed upset. He also went ahead and bought his son’s presents.

OP sought advice from Reddit users, and they were quick to call her out. They didn’t appreciate her behavior and let her know that she was wrong in this scenario. One user said, “Wow. The fact that you even let this come out of your mouth is reprehensible. Your husband has every right to be angry with you, and frankly, to reevaluate being married to someone who would behave so selfishly.”

Another user pointed out that the husband buying his son a gift really shouldn’t set them back from buying a house in the upcoming future. The user said, “If buying a Switch knocked them out of buying a home, they’re nowhere near ready to buy a home.” More Redditors continued to tell the woman just how wrong she was. Another said, “Incredibly selfish and heartless of you to even suggest something so awful to your husband. Good for him for standing his ground and ignoring your moaning.”

Even though this woman wanted to save as much money as possible to put toward a new house, it was clear that the majority of people did not think this was the way to go about it. 

Do you think this woman was right or wrong to tell her husband that he shouldn’t buy a gift for his son’s birthday? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your friends and family, too.