Why Fake People Make Empaths Freeze

Jul 13, 2018 by apost team

For those of you who don't know, an empath is someone who is considered hypersensitive. No, this isn't someone who gets triggered by everyday conversations or who you have to say all your nice and polite politically correct words around, it just means that they are highly sensitive to emotional reactions and situations and there is proof behind this claim.

In 1991, a psychologist by the name of Dr. Elaine Aron studied this characteristic and came to the conclusion that as much as 15 to 20% of the population could be considered hypersensitive, or empaths. This meant that the highly sensitive would react more noticeably and emotionally to an outside stimulus when compared to other non-highly sensitive persons. There is an odd exception to this however. More and more, researchers are noticing that these hypersensitive people come to a crux when they are confronted with the disingenuous or simply put, fake people.

Here are some of the reactions empaths have to fake people and why:

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Empaths are prone to catching onto emotions and have an almost internal alarm when they encounter a source of high emotion. This doesn't add up when a fake person who attempts to hide all these feelings presents themselves. The empath is left in the position of attempting to artificially empathize with a person's dishonest characteristics when the empath knows that there is more under the surface they they innately want to connect to but shouldn't.

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When an empath meets a person that, simply put, "tries too hard" and keeps upholding a facade of ongoing compliments and praise that just isn't real, it can be a difficult time for an empath to socialize.

Sometimes an empath may find themselves leaving the social interaction altogether and avoiding it when this happens in order to prevent the inner conflict of empathizing in way that deep down, doesn't feel right.

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In addition to the increasing sense of anxiety and discomfort that again disappears when they are no longer in the fake's company, an empath may find themselves losing control of their words and how they present themselves.

Empaths can find themselves choking up and at a loss for words when they need to communicate because of this internal confusion. They don't know whether they should continue playing the game with the fake person to avoid conflict and so may not know how to proceed with the interaction.

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The reasoning behind why you or a friend may always behaving a certain way around 'you know who' may be warranted once you understand why. Maybe you both witnessed an awkward interaction while you were waiting for your coffee, or at the supermarket or between extended family (let's be honest here).

If you think someone else wonders the same when they can't get along with THAT fake person and they don't know why, be sure to let them know!

Let us know your thoughts and tell us about any scenario where you've seen an empath act a little weird around a fake person.