When You Truly Love Someone, You Learn Exactly What Triggers Them

Nov 06, 2018 by apost team

When you are in love with someone, you don’t get angry when they get mad at you. You shouldn’t become frustrated because they are having an uncomfortable reaction to what you have said or to something they experienced. You don’t put them down or make fun of them when they get quiet or shut down, even when you feel as if you did nothing wrong.

It may often feel as if your significant other gets upset over nothing. Yes, it seems meaningless and small to you. But before you get mad and yell at them, consider whether or not they did it for a reason. You need to look at the situation from their point of view. They often see things in a much different way than you do. Even if you have been dating your significant other for many years, you still may not realize exactly how their brains work. They, themselves, may not even realize it.

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We all experience trauma in strange and weird ways. When you really love and care about someone you should be sensitive to the things that trigger them. You have to comprehend the things that will make them upset and uneasy. While these issues seem small and insignificant to you, it is important to know that they can set your loved one off and cause an unexpected reaction. Don’t accuse them of overreacting or tell them to calm down. It may not seem like a big deal to you, but to them it really is.

The smallest things can quickly cause terrible memories to come flying to the surface. Some people get upset over the sight of blood, no matter how small. For others, a certain smell will trigger a dark memory. Raised voices and loud noises can make someone remember a traumatic event. Remember, it doesn’t have to be something so obvious. Anything can be a trigger to someone.

Love is something we all must take seriously. You may think that you have the answers to their problems, but you have to realize it isn’t always as easy as you may think it is. No two people deal with things the same way. Just because your mother reacts in one way towards anxiety doesn’t mean that your girlfriend will. Everyone is different and should be treated that way.

When you love and care for someone, you do your best to make sure you know what triggers them. However, you can’t read their mind. You won’t know what their reaction will be to every comment you make or every noise that they hear. Be prepared for triggers to happen when you least expect them. While you may not know when this will be, you should simply be there for them afterward. If you were the one who triggered them, validate their feelings and apologize. Tell them you didn’t realize what you were doing, and make sure they know you don’t plan to do it again.

Make sure that they know it is okay for them to be open and honest with you. Don’t become accusatory or defensive when they talk to you about their problems. This will make them hide the truth from you. No one wants to feel like a freak or unstable. When you truly love someone, you want them to know that their feelings are important to you. They should realize that they can express themselves openly to you without fear of judgment. You should never make fun of someone for their triggers when you love them.

Does your loved one make sure they help you if you are triggered by something? Let us know in the comment section and pass this on to others who may need to read it!