Unconditional Love Means Acceptance, Growth And Never Trying To Change Your Partner

Nov 10, 2018 by apost team

The best relationships help you grow. You're a better person whenever you're around your partner. You love without expecting anything in return. You can even start to appreciate your partner's so-called flaws.

Selfish love is more of an infatuation. You build up expectations and start to live in a fantasy land. Then you get frustrated when the real-life person doesn't measure up. You need to accept that you don't have that kind of control over someone else's life. Besides, you wouldn't want someone to treat you that way, either.

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It's simple: just think of the Golden Rule. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Every culture has some version of this idea. You can take ownership of that concept in your own relationships.

There is sometimes fear that comes with love. Fear of rejection, fear of opening up. It's time to let that go. Allow yourself to fall in love, no strings attached. If it's the right relationship, you will both change for the better. Don't focus on changing your partner.

Yet you should also recognize that change comes from within. You can't expect your partner to change if you don't put in that same effort yourself. Loving unconditionally allows this to happen. You're in it for the long haul. It can also test how strong your relationship is. If you're always the "giver," look for someone who won't be a selfish "taker." You won't be scared of showing your true colors. The two of you will be honest with each other.

Change also involves reassessing your priorities. You might have to give some things up. The better the relationship, the less this will bother you. You will want to make your partner happy. That will make you happy. It's a mutually beneficial situation!

There's a reason why marriage vows ask you to love your partner unconditionally. Even if you are not married, the same principles apply. You need to love them no matter what. Even if they're crabby or not feeling well!

No one is perfect - least of all you and your partner. Don't let that discourage you. Growing together is part of the joy of healthy relationships.

This may all sound idealistic. The search is well worth it. Take your time with the journey. Loving yourself is the first (and most important!) step. Accept your mistakes. Only then can you learn from them.

Your new, self-confident mentality will reflect love in other people. It makes you naturally attractive. Everyone wants to know what makes you so special! You can smile and let them in on a secret: joy comes from within. You don't need validation from people or things. You can never run out of love. You're not relying on someone else to provide it for you.

Keep applying these principles. You'll be surprised at what could happen! Love can come from more than one place. Enjoy the journey. Sooner or later, you'll find someone willing to walk it with you.

Do you love your partner unconditionally, the way that's described in this article? Let us know your experiences in the comments and pass this article along to your partner or your favorite couple!