Twelve Motives For Women Leaving Relationships — Crucial Issues Men Need To Examine

Feb 01, 2021 by apost team

Men may think that if their wife or girlfriend loves them, that means she will never leave them. However, that is not the case. For any person in a relationship, being taken for granted is not helpful. It is the point where a relationship begins to unravel. But how can you know what being taken for granted looks like? Below are 12 of the signs that are hurtful to women and can lead to the end of a relationship. 

There's a saying that opposites attract, but usually for a relationship to remain strong, there need to at least be some common interests. In some cases, a relationship may have started because of common interests, but the two people grew in a different direction. This happens in almost every long term relationship as the people mature and find new things they enjoy. After all, we are not static beings with unchanging thoughts and opinions. 

It is important to find some common ground, even if you don't have similar interests. For example, one partner may enjoy watching sports while the other doesn't. However, a common interest could be TV shows that parties enjoy — so carving time out to share these common interests with each other is extremely important. If a man does not put in his effort to spend some quality time with his partner, the relationship is on the rocks. 

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Communication is one of the most important, if not THE most important pillar in any relationship. Since humans cannot read minds, we have to depend on clear and consistent communication to keep our relationship healthy and functioning. Unfortunately, as the relationship progresses, many people stop putting in the effort to understand their partner.

There are certain beliefs some men may hold, such as not wanting to 'talk something to death.' Some men can also become withdrawn and annoyed to be constantly talking. However, if communication is no longer present in a relationship, it leads to major misunderstandings. If a man stops trying to have important conversations with his partner, the relationship may not survive much longer. It need not always be talking without a goal: conversations can be short and sweet as long as both partners allow the other to talk and make the space to listen. 

It's a myth that women don't like sex just as much as men do. If a man does not seem to want to have sex with his girlfriend, she will begin to feel unwanted. People who are in love want to engage in physical intimacy, and while the initial passion doesn't last forever, that doesn't mean that the desire for intimacy goes away. Intimacy is healthy for both partners.

Among other benefits, Web MD reported that regular sex keeps our immune system healthy, lowers blood pressure, lowers the risk of a heart attack, could reduce the risk of prostate cancer, and eases stress. Moreover, sex is a form of healthy exercise that helps your overall health. It also improved self-esteem in partners. Sex is a very intimate and beautiful type of connection that adds a lot of value to the relationship, so avoiding being intimate can have a drastic effect on a relationship. 

Any person in a loving relationship wants to be put first. While this doesn't mean that a person needs to give up their desires for someone else's, finding a middle ground is crucial. When a man no longer sees his partner as his priority, he is putting his relationship in jeopardy. Making someone your priority is usually reflected in the small things, such as letting someone know that you will be late, that you are thinking of them, and lending a helping hand without being asked all help to strengthen a loving bond.

If a man starts to make excuses about why he no longer treats his partner as his priority, it leads to a lot of resentment and anger. 

Insecurity goes against another integral pillar in a relationship: trust. “Trust is the primary connective tissue of a relationship,” Ramani Durvasula Ph.D. told Women's Health Magazine.

“More than anything, it fosters a sense of safety. Without trust, a relationship cannot grow in a healthy manner.”

Men who snoop and grill their girlfriends will eventually turn them off. Trust accompanies love, and if a man truly loves a woman, he will trust her. Unfortunately, there are many people who believe that being jealous of their partner is somewhat romantic, and while some women like it when their partner is possessive, it isn't a trait that bodes well for a long-term partnership. After a while, even playful possessiveness can become toxic. 

Honestly is the best policy, and this is nowhere truer than in a relationship. Lying to someone breaks their trust and forms large cracks in the relationship that are difficult to repair. Sometimes we tell little white lies to make our partner feel better, but this doesn't compare to bigger lies that can be plain destructive. Speaking to 'Women's Health Magazine,' Durvasula said:

"People lie in relationships to save face, avoid conflict, protect their egos, protect their image, and just to avoid hurting their partner’s feelings." 

A lie that can be harmful can be figured out with this question: ask yourself, are you lying to avoid hurting your partner's feelings or are you protecting yourself? When a woman figures out that she has been lied to and manipulated, she may not want to hold on to the relationship any longer. 

Everybody needs some alone time and some time with friends. After all, a relationship does not mean that you have to spend every waking moment and all your free time together. Giving a woman the space she needs is a sign of trust and respect, and it's necessary for her mental health and the health of the relationship. The phrase "distance makes the heart grow fonder" can be applied here. 

"Distance" in this case means to spend time apart to reconnect with who you are outside of the relationship. All of us have distinct roles and individual identities when we are with different people: a woman is not just a girlfriend or wife but also a daughter, sister, mother, and friend to many people. Away from all of her bonds, a woman is also whole and complete by herself. If a man does not let his partner celebrate her different roles and herself, it leads to drastic problems in the romantic relationship. 

Some men think they treat the women in their lives right because they spend time with them or even take them to nice dinners. But if the men are closed off emotionally during these times, women get tired of it. Men need to allow themselves to be open and vulnerable or they will eventually be too distant to repair the relationship. Being emotionally available also shows a woman how much her partner trusts her and cares enough about the relationship to open up. 

As long as the relationship allows for healthy expression, both individuals can benefit from emotional closeness. Being emotionally closed off can be seen in actions such as not giving affection (such as hugs and touching without leading to sexual contact), not responding to messages, constant misunderstandings, and a lack of effort to understand their partner and defensiveness that is counterproductive when arguing or discussing issues. A man who refuses to put in the effort to show his emotional side will not be in a relationship for too long. 

Some men fall in love with a woman and have the goal of changing her to make her just right. They aren't in love at all; they are just in love with the idea they've created in their heads. A woman deserves to be loved and accepted for who she is. If she feels as though a man is trying to turn her into someone she isn't, she may not want to stick around for too long. 

Plenty of people are busy, but men who are always too busy to spend time with their girlfriend are sending the signal that she doesn't matter. She will understand if there are certain crunch times, but men who cannot be there to support their girlfriend through the hard times and celebrate the good ones will soon be alone again. A woman does not expect that a man constantly texts her or calls her. She only expects that her needs are met, even if it is a little late. 

For example, a man may work really late but never texts his girlfriend that he will be coming home much later than expected. He also doesn't respond to her calls and text because he was too busy. This type of behavior is very damaging, as it shows the woman that she is not worth taking five minutes to just update her. 

As President Theodore Roosevelt said: "Comparison is the thief of joy." One of the worst things a man can do is compare his wife or girlfriend unfavorably to another woman, especially an ex-girlfriend. People shouldn't be compared in the first place. Everyone is unique, and everyone has their own strengths. Complaining that a woman is not like another woman in some way shows her that she is not loved for who she is. It also affects a woman's self-esteem and makes her question her own worth, which can unravel into a very toxic and unhealthy relationship. 

It's the little things that matter more than the big things, and women expect to be shown appreciation for those things. Appreciation can be in the form of compliments, but also can be more passive, such as giving a woman your undivided attention when she is talking, and making eye contact when she is speaking to you. Being grateful for what she does for you through words and actions, like saying 'thank you' or writing small notes to thank her are very small things but impact your relationship in a big way. They foster trust and love as well as deepen the already existing bond. 

Do you agree with these points? Do you have any more to add to this list? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!