Thoughts Of A Girl Who Feels She Isn’t Good Enough

Nov 13, 2018 by apost team

When closing the door on a relationship, it is important to remain mindful of the words used to say goodbye. Once words are spoken, there is no opportunity to take these words back. So be sure to choose the right words to express yourself the first time.

The way you choose to say goodbye will make a distinct difference in the life of the other person. Any damage caused by your words is permanent. The words you choose will determine the amount of damage the person endures.

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There is a girl that at first glance will resemble the average girl you see on a daily basis. Some people may think she is pretty while others do not. One group of people may think she is witty and smart. While others may believe her to be boring.

The girl I speak of finds that she is good enough for some people, while not considered of value to others. However, the opinions of others would have less significance to her if she possessed more belief in herself. The sad part is, she was good enough for herself a short time ago.

When you are told on a daily basis by someone you love that you are sub-par as a person, it can become quite disheartening. There is no pain like knowing that someone that is a top priority to you, does not consider you to be a priority in return.

Despite the strength, you might think you possess, the whispers of doubt regarding your own worthiness once started, will play again and again in your mind.

If you remain in this relationship too long it can have devastating consequences for your mental and emotional well-being. It is best to leave this situation, or better yet, meet someone that recognizes your true worth.

Hopefully, this change occurs before you become convinced of your own unworthiness. This is what happened to the girl I am speaking about.

You should never make someone a priority in your life that does not have good intentions for you. When you welcome someone into your life that does not appreciate your kindness, you can only end up broken by the experience. And for the girl I am speaking about, this is exactly what happened.

The girl seems powerless now against the obstacles set against her. She finds that all actions she takes is either wrong or simply not up to par. She also finds that all too often any wrong that can possibly happen to her becomes a reality.

The girl decided, after being knocked down by life one time too many, to simply stay down. She would allow everything in her life to fall apart since this end seemed inevitable to her anyway.

She places the blame on herself when someone walks out of her life. She questions her own adequacy and asks what she did to cause them to leave. She torments herself with this question over and over.

What if I had laughed more? Could I have done more to make him happy? These are two of the questions that plague her. 

She is unable to recall when it last was that someone made her the priority. She is known to put people before herself. She has given all that she has to give including the best parts of herself. In the end, she feels no one seemed to notice.

She has given efforts that have gone unnoticed. She truly deserved it all but received nothing. Now she finds it difficult to muster the strength to continue forward. She is not able to get out of her rut on her own.

And to be honest, we could all use a little help every once in a while. Human beings were not meant to live their lives alone.

There are times in life when we can all benefit from friends that remind us of our adequacy. The girl I speak of needs to know that the negative views of herself exist only in her head. The truth that she needs to know is that she will always be 'wrong' when dealing with the wrong person.

Once this is realized, she will also know that she will always be seen as adequate enough by the correct people in her life. Bad things will always occur in life. But she must know she has the power to limit the number of bad things that happen to her.

She should also know that the struggles of today will not seem as relevant to her tomorrow.

The girl needs a gentle reminder occasionally that everyone she likes is not necessarily a good fit for her life. Someone should explain to her that it is not her fault that she attracted a bad person to her. Good people attract toxic individuals often in life.

You should tell her about the good she brings to people. Tell her how much she means to you. Assure her that there is more to life and herself than she is seeing at the moment. She will benefit from you being as good to her as she has been to many people before.

When she fully recovers from her present devastation, her amazing abilities will resurface. She will appreciate your presence in her time of need and you will benefit from being a part of her good days. Do not stop fighting for her. The results will be well worth the fight.

Do you know someone that feels the same way? Have you ever felt similar emotions? Send this article to your friends and family. They will benefit from the added reminder that there is a great girl or woman around them that might need a little extra encouragement.