Those Who Prefer Being Alone Have These 17 Unique Personality Traits

Jan 21, 2019 by apost team

We all know someone who truly thrives among the company of others. They are often described as the life of the party, and purposely plant themselves right in the center of the action. They need frequent human interaction and may experience feelings of sadness and isolation when left to their own devices. For a loner, the complete opposite is true.

It’s not that they dislike or hate being with other people, but they focus more on quality over quantity when it comes to their own personal relationships. They like to take their time and develop deeper, longer lasting connections with a select few, versus having a large number of casual acquaintances.

Time is also extremely important to a loner, so they want to make sure they’re spending it wisely. For a loner, alone time is not only a desire but an absolute necessity in maintaining a healthy sense of balance and sanity. Which type of person best describes you? Do you prefer to be alone, or in the company of others?

Here are 10+ unique personality traits commonly shared among people who prefer to be alone:

1. Their Time is Valuable

Loners treasure their time. They know what they love and hate and won’t go to just any event, simply just to get out of the house. Instead, they are much choosier about whom they choose to spend their time with and will pour their energy into places and things they are passionate about. A loner realizes the value in pouring their energy and time into things they are passionate about and the people who matter to them are always a priority. If a loner seeks you out, you know you must be worthy of their time, as a loner doesn’t require any company.

2. They Have a Strong Sense of Self-Awareness

Since loners spend so much of their time thinking and introspecting, they learn a lot about themselves and those around them. They aren’t afraid to feel and in fact thrive on having those deep, one on one brainstorming sessions with their own mind.

3. They Are Level-Headed

Loners like to avoid unwanted attention or being thrust into the spotlight, so they will remain cool, calm and collected in the midst of a stressful situation to avoid making a scene. For that same reason, they are often repulsed by overly dramatic and irrational people and will avoid being around them at all costs.

4. They Are Open-Minded

Just because a loner may prefer to keep their doors closed, that certainly doesn’t mean that their mind is closed as well. On the contrary, a loner tends to be extremely open-minded, and up for experiencing new places, ideas and experiences. They just may require a little down time before and after being around lots of people.

5. They Are Loyal

Often when you heard the word “loner” you automatically assume this must mean that they don’t have any friends. This is not often the case. A loner does have friends, but instead of obtaining large groups of friends, they tend to be much pickier and choosy about the company they keep. Since they don’t require the attention of others to make them happy, they can be more selective about whom they spend their time with. For those lucky enough to be chosen by a loner, you can count on them to make a trustworthy, reliable friend that you can always count on.

6. They Have Clear Cut Boundaries

Saying no is often difficult for a people pleaser, but not so for a loner. Since they aren’t concerned with winning over anyone else’s approval, they aren’t afraid to stand their ground, especially when they feel they are being taken advantage of.

7. They Know Their Strengths and Weaknesses

Loners are able to take a step back and make a mental checklist of their strengths and weaknesses. They know they aren’t perfect, but still strive hard to make improvements.

8. They Are Empathetic

Loners are hyper-aware of their own feelings and the feelings of those around them. They are willing to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes so to speak, and understand and respect the needs of other people.

9. They Aren’t Perfect

Since no one is perfect, the same goes for a loner. The good thing about a loner though, is that you don’t have to tell them that they aren’t perfect, as they are already well aware of areas within themselves that could use a little improving.

10. They Are Guided By Their Own Intuition

Loners are highly driven by their own intuition. Their gut feelings are strong, and intense and can alert them of danger or warn them when something doesn’t feel right. They can often get a strong sense of someone right off the bat with little to no direct interaction with them. This can be a good or bad thing, as it may be hard to get on a loner’s good side if their first impression of you wasn’t a positive one.

11. They Aren’t Co-Dependent

Loners are perfectly content to be on their own, so they won’t waste their time with the wrong person out of a fear of being alone. This doesn’t mean that a loner never needs anyone else, but they depend on themselves first, instead of needing constant attention and approval from others.

​​​​​​​12. They Are Kind And Compassionate ​​​​​​​

Loners often possess a certain softer, gentler approach when dealing with others. They are able to look past their own needs and wants to truly understand how to relate and sympathize with others.

13. They Are Brave and Courageous

Loners are comfortable and confident with themselves and their abilities. They are not afraid to take their time self reflecting and facing their inner demons head on instead of filling their lives with outside distractions.

14. They Love Themselves

Loners love themselves, but not in a self-serving, narcissist way. A loner understands that to truly love someone else, they must love themselves first. This concept can be difficult for some to grasp, but a loner is more focused on developing deeper, more authentic friendships, versus those fake and shallow relationships.

15. They Are Reliable

Loners understand that time is valuable, so they won’t waste yours. You can count on a loner to be punctual and dependable. They won’t keep you waiting, or pull a no show. If they make you a promise, they will go to great lengths to make good on their word.

16. They Have Emotional Strength

Loners have deep inner strength and hold steady when the going gets tough. They know how to work through those moments of pain, frustration, and anger and don’t allow trivial things in life get them down.

17. They Have Strong Morals

Loners have a great sense of right from wrong and there is no convincing a loner to do something that they don’t agree with or aren’t comfortable with. Peer pressure simply won’t fly with a loner! They aren’t afraid to stand up for what they believe in and aren’t easily convinced or swayed by others. If you enjoyed reading this article, please make sure and share it with your friends and family!

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