This Is Why I Won't Leave My Baby Alone With You, Dear Mother-In-Law

Nov 29, 2018 by apost team

It's always an exciting and nerve-wracking step in a relationship to meet the parents of your partner. For some, this moment happens quite early on, for some quite late. You always have the same hope: To get on well with the possible in-laws and to be on the same wave-length. After all, if you do hit it off, the future will hold a lot of wonderful shared moments.

So it would be quite nice to like each other. If a wedding does happen, you're going to be family forever - if it goes well - and bound to each other. But just like you can't pick your own family, you can't pick your partner's as well. You still need to deal with them, especially when there are children/grandchildren to think about.

Grandmas love their grandchildren, that's basically a given thing. So there's nothing more wonderful for a grandma than looking after their grandchild. For most grandmothers, it's natural to look after their grandchildren on their own. The child's mother has to be on board of course - it's her decision as well.

What happens when a mother and grandmother just don't get along at all? When a mother doesn't want her child to have long contact with their grandmother? And what does the father of such a child think of the situation?

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This is the case for Stefanie. She and her husband married three years ago. Five months ago, their biggest wish became real when their little son was born. This addition to the family was the cause for the greatest happiness Paul and Stefanie ever felt, a sentiment that is most likely echoed by most parents. Now their whole life revolves around their little boy.

Max, as their son is called, is the apple of his mother's eye and her husband Paul also dislikes handing the little one over to others, even if it's just for a few minutes. They would like to spend as much time as possible with him.

It's just natural that the 28-years old Stefanie thinks about who to trust with her little son. She even has problems leaving her son with her own mother, her best friend or grand-grandmother. But she can deal with it, even if it's hard. Of course, she trusts these people, loves them and has a close relationship with them.

The mother of Stefanie's husband Paul would also like to watch over her son's little one alone. But Stefanie feels troubled about this. Her relationship with Greta, her husband's mother, isn't hostile or unbelievably bad - but it's not a close, loving, familiar relationship either. She only wants to entrust her son to those people, however, whom she has a close relationship to and trusts one hundred percent. And that's sadly not the case with her mother-in-law.

Of course, not just the mother-in-law Greta has a problem with this, but Paul the husband as well. The pair's relationship suffers under Stefanie's stance on Paul's mother. She comes up with ever more excuses as to why her son can't go visit his grandmother right now. The excuses start to become noticeable and apparent.

This is why she's worried about her relationship with her mother-in-law. Unfortunately, her son can't yet speak about where he likes to be and where he feels safe. And in the meantime, Stefanie has to do what she feels is right.

Paul accepts his wife's stance and that she decided whom their son is left with. He would like it if his mother could spend time with his son as well but doesn't want to pressure his wife when she doesn't want it.

Do you also have a troubled relationship with your mother-in-law or do you know somebody who has this problem as well? Why don't you show this article to your friends and acquaintances who know about this situation and could benefit from reading this story.