This Amazing Marriage Advice From A Divorced Man Is A Must-Read

Oct 26, 2018 by apost team

Some people might not take the advice of a man all the time. However, some of the best marriage advice comes from a man who is divorced.

About half of the marriages in the United States will likely end in divorce for one reason or another, which is really sad if you think about the families that are created when two people decide to share their lives together.

A divorced man who is also a coach and a motivational speaker has decided to offer some advice about what it's like to be married and what it's like to go through a divorce so that he can help other couples who experience this time in life. Some of the advice that the man gives to others is what he wished someone would have told him.

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When a couple gets married, it seems like everyone wants to offer advice about everything from finances to when to have children. There are family members who try to offer ideas about traditions and how things have been done in the family in the past.

Friends try to get couples to do some of the things that they have done as a couple, such as buy a new house together or go out on dates during the week to keep the spark alive.

Some of the tips that are given are good to consider, but most are simply tidbits of information that people think couples should know. Those who haven't been married think that they are giving the best advice when it's really nothing that is based on a life experience.

Gerald Rogers wants other people to understand that being married isn't always a walk in the park. He wants to tell couples about what it's really like to be married and what it's like when you make the decision to end the relationship.

He shares how he was married for 16 years and found himself to be a divorced man trying to make his relationship work in a civil manner.

When you get married, you think that you've found the partner you'll have for the rest of your life. Sometimes, one person will take the other for granted because you think that the person will always be there just because you're married. Try to show the love to each other that you had while you were dating so that you always show the other person the love that is shared.

Showing someone else that you love that person is never wrong. However, you also need to learn how to protect your heart from the damage that could occur. Keep enough space available for the one person you're married to so that the other person doesn't have a reason to doubt your love and caring.

Each day should be a new day to fall in love with the person you're married to, enjoying the new adventures that you have together and learning more about the other person. Both people will change over time, and those changes are what will bring you closer together if you keep your heart and mind open.

Instead of always focusing on the things that are irritating in your marriage because there will be things that drive you crazy, try to focus on the things that you love about the other person. Those little flaws that you don't like are easy to notice, but the things that you love are sometimes hard to find unless you dig for them. Think about those traits that made you fall in love with the person in the first place, keeping those things in your mind even on days when you feel like throwing in the towel.

Sometimes, changing the other person might seem like the best idea. However, it's not going to benefit either of you if there are two people in the home who are just alike. You got married for better or for worse, and that means you fell in love with the person with all of the things that are different instead of the things that you always share with each other. Some things might change while you're in a relationship, but don't try to force them because it can lead to arguments and the end of the relationship.

Take hold of the emotions that you have. Don't expect your partner to always pick up the pieces and handle the emotions that you go through for you. That person will likely be there as a shoulder to cry on and an emotional support system, but you have to learn how to handle the details of your emotions on your own to show that you're an adult.

Remember to choose the reactions that are appropriate. Don't blame your partner for things that you can control or things that you can't control. These emotions and reactions will soon begin to spill over to the other person, and it can sometimes be difficult to rope those emotions back in so that you're in a healthy relationship like you were before.

When your partner is having problems, offer encouragement. Keep in mind that you can't fix everything. Your partner will likely cherish that time and support that you have to offer. If you try to fix everything instead of letting your partner deal with issues, then that person will likely begin to think that you're controlling and trying to live a life for that person.

Have you ever had to save your marriage? Or, if you're divorced, do you have any marriage advice for our readers? Let us know in the comments and show this article to a married couple you know!