The Ugly Truth About Being The Girl Who Always Takes Care Of Others

Jan 15, 2019 by apost team

Being a girl with a caring heart is something to be proud of, but it can also weigh you down. Always putting others before yourself can eventually leave you with nothing left to give. If you're always pouring from your cup but never refilling it, eventually the cup will be empty.

Finding the right balance between giving of yourself to others while also taking care of yourself is not easy. It may mean that sometimes you might have to be selfish and put your needs before the needs of your loved ones. That's why having a caring heart is both a blessing and a curse. You love that others always come to you in their time of need, but sometimes it leaves you feeling depleted.

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When one of your friends is having a problem, they know who to call. They know that no matter what, you're going to drop everything and be there for them. While that's an admirable quality, it can leave you feeling burned out over time.

Not everyone deserves your kindness, but even if someone is mean to you, you still can't find it in your heart to be mean back to them. Kindness runs through your veins. It's who you are and you shouldn't be ashamed of that. Sometimes, it would be nice to give people back what they give to you, but you just can't find it in your heart to do it.

Even if someone has hurt you so deeply, you can't stay mad for long. It's just not in you to hold grudges. That kind of hate fills your heart, and your heart is too pure to be anything but kind. Unfortunately, that kind heart puts you at risk of being hurt over and over again.

Even if there's no good there, you still try to find it. Someone can hurt you repeatedly, yet you'll still give them another chance if they ask for one. It's not that you like getting hurt, you just can't help yourself. Turning someone away when they ask for forgiveness isn't something you can do.

The intention is there- to put yourself first for once. To make time for self-care. But then something comes up and you once again drop everything to help out. Before you know it, your to-do list is full again and taking care of yourself is at the very bottom.

Since you've never shown anything different, being kind is all people have come to expect of you. You can go out of your way for someone, but they won't appreciate it because it's just what you always do. They never have to worry that you won't be there, but in turn, they don't value your presence as much.

You've become so accustomed to saying "yes" no matter the circumstances, that "no" isn't even something you say anymore. Even if you give yourself a pep talk to say "no" to things that take too much from you, you still can't seem to get yourself to utter that two-letter word. Even those that don't deserve your help still receive it because you have a fear of letting others down.

Your loved ones have become so used to you taking care of them that none of them ever ask how you are feeling or if you need any help. Life can start to feel lonely, even though you are surrounded by others that need your help.

A heart as caring as yours deserves the world, but so far all you've received is more requests for help. One of these days, you're going to find someone who puts you first. Who drops everything to make sure you're okay. Who makes you the center of their universe. That person does exist because there are more people out there just like you, who have caring hearts but just haven't found someone to take care of them yet.

Are you the one always taking care of everyone around them? Do you feel unappreciated and like no one is ever there for you? Tell others how you feel by passing this along. Maybe it will make them realize how undervalued you are and how much more you deserve.