The Brutal Truth Behind The Toxic Relationship Between A Narcissist And An Empath

Sep 12, 2018 by apost team

Narcissists have a special quality to them. When a narcissist is so completely self-obsessed, this is a sign that they've suffered a profound wound. Some aspect of their childhood has caused damage to their psyche, unraveling them and forcing them to seek constant validation. But for empaths, the strain is often too much.

Empaths are people with healing qualities and personalities. They tend to absorb the emotions of other people, experiencing them like they're their own emotions. All the hurt, anguish, and pain is felt firsthand by the empath.

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A narcissist won't often know what boundaries an empath has. This means that it's easy for the narcissist to bond with the empath. Empaths eat the pain of the narcissist like it's a meal they're gobbling up.

But when you love a narcissist, it's easy to forget that they take things from you. Their entire focus is turned inward, so they don't tend to give much back to the relationship. They are relying on you to help fix them, but you can't ever fully fix them. They'll always be a work in progress.

This kind of relationship leaves the empath feeling emotionally shattered and out of touch with their empathetic side. In a vicious cycle, this can lead to the empath becoming a narcissist, and they unintentionally inflict themselves on another empath.

No matter how you look at it, the narcissist in the relationship will be manipulative. Their core desire is to be in control of the relationship. But empaths mainly want to feel loved and love other people. They want to take care of others and provide healing energy.

Love like this can fuel a narcissist. Even though their damage doesn't heal, they get an ego boost that lets them feel better about their lives. But narcissists are incapable of connecting to their authentic sense of self. Narcissists walk away from nearly every relationship they have when they no longer have the same control over their partner. The game isn't fun anymore.

The two of you just aren't going to bond. Your wildly different energies will always end with the empath feeling hurt. But empaths often attract a number of different narcissist types into their lives. These are the 5 most common narcissists you'll meet throughout your life.

It's not always in the nature of a narcissist to be confident. They might be sensitive, reserved, and quiet. They might have feelings of self-hatred and self-doubt. They might think they aren't worthy of your attention.

In most cases, this type of narcissist is mainly motivated by the fears they have. They won't accept another person's love and let themselves be loved. They won't develop their true identity. They're completely obsessed with their own feeling of inferiority.

This is the other side of the narcissism spectrum. This individual has total confidence in themselves, believing that they're a perfect, sexy, smart person. They tend to act like they can't be hurt by anything, but they also seek constant validation from the empaths in their lives. Their relationships are all about validating that they're the best.

This is a narcissist who seems to be lovely at the start of a relationship. They display perfection, affection, and care. They offer flattery and gifts that make you love them. But then, as soon as you're attached, they'll leech off your emotional energy until they lose interest. They'll cast you aside without another thought.

Most of the time, this kind of narcissist has a background in money, and they want to stay rich. They look down on everyone who didn't grow up in luxurious habitats.

This person might seem like a driven, intelligent, and successful human being. But you'll quickly find that they want to one-up everyone, brag about themselves, and constantly self-promote their ventures and achievements.

When you encounter this narcissist, they'll seem like their intentions are good. They're involved in good deeds within the community and for other people. But their kindness always comes with a price.

They expect kindness to be repaid, and if it isn't, they'll demand compensation. Serious conflict arises when you don't comply.

Empaths will often find that trying to communicate their feelings won't work, because the narcissist won't care about them. They'll just use charisma and manipulation to sound like they care. The narcissist will generally blame the empath for pain both parties suffer. They cause the empath to believe they're solely responsible for all the issues in the relationship.

Empaths need to make a simple choice. Are they going to let the narcissist continue to rule their life, or are they going to cut them off completely? In most cases, there won't be a middle ground.

Have you ever cut a narcissist or other toxic person out of your life? What kind of impact did it have on your mental health?