Thanks For Breaking Me. You Made Me Realize What I'm Worth

Jan 07, 2019 by apost team

I want you to know I am thankful for the pain and devastation you once caused me. I appreciate the terrible way you treated me. I know this is not the response you expected from me. Nor is it the response you received from your past victims. However, do not tell yourself I am lying or crazy. I truly am thankful to you for causing me to break.

You treated me like trash and discarded my heart like a random piece of rubbish. I thank you for both of these things. It is only because you treated me so poorly that I now understand how I should be treated. The way you harassed me taught me I should not settle for any man with no respect for my dignity. When I think back, you are a living example of all I should avoid in this world.

I should not be with a man who enjoys pointing out my imperfections. I do not deserve a man who will look to increase the insecurities I already possess. Why would I settle for a man who criticizes me for being human and having flaws? I understand there is a time for criticism in any relationship but this is not to be confused with a person who seeks only to belittle their partner. Criticism is used by people who love to encourage others to bring out their best. I should not be in a relationship where I am criticized simply to fulfill the sadistic need of another individual to hurt me.

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I now know I deserve a man who loves me and sees my flaws as the differences that make me special. I do not need a man that causes me to feel so bad about myself that I want to find a hole to crawl into and never return. I deserve a man who builds my self-esteem by simply loving me for who I am. This type of man will not need to use criticism to inspire the best in me each day of our lives together.

I do not deserve a man that brings out my worst behaviors or who makes me so sad I cry myself to sleep at night. I deserve a man who is the shoulder I can cry on. I need a man who will take my hand in his and walk with me as I face the challenges of life. The man I need will be there for me despite any hardship I face.

I deserve a man who will demonstrate his commitment to me at all times. I do not need a man who feels he can walk in and out of my life whenever it suits him. The man I deserve will offer stability and consistency to me. He will provide a life that brings peace of mind to me. I need a man that will assure I never feel left behind or forgotten. I deserve a man that understands and respects my true worth. My man should assure that I feel valued and appreciated. I need a man who makes it plain he will always be at my side.

You were not that guy for me. It is okay because you are still valuable. You are the man that taught me to never settle for less than I deserve. You taught me through your actions that life with a man who does not value me is misery I do not deserve. 

Thank you so much for the heartbreak resulting from your cheating. Thank you for discarding me like used toilet paper. It took a while but I now understand I was not the bad person in the disaster we called a relationship. I understand I simply made the mistake of giving my heart to a person unworthy of such a blessing. All is well that ends well and I am so over you and your mistreatment of me now. I am a woman who will never again invite such a piece of crap in my life and for this: I truly thank you.

Did you ever experience such an 'aha' moment? Is there someone you're thankful for because their mistreatment made you stronger and wiser? Let us know in the comments and pass this on to your loved ones - you never know who needs to be reminded of the strength they gained from a bad relationship.