Single Woman’s Mother Says Her Sister’s Family Deserves Her New Home More Than She Does

Oct 25, 2021 by apost team

Families can sometimes make simple situations very complicated. Though there is generally a lot of love between family members, some events bring out the bad side in all of us, and the way we treat our loved ones can change. There are thousands of stories on the internet of siblings and parents going above and beyond in their expectations of others, and it becomes a huge wedge in an otherwise respectful and loving bond. 

One woman on Reddit recalled her experience with her sister and mother who told her that she did not deserve to live in the big house she bought with her own money because she did not have any children. Single women tend to be judged quite harshly by society; especially if they choose to remain childless and unmarried. It may be hard to believe for many that women in such positions may enjoy the choices they have. However, this does not shield them from the judgments they receive. 

The unnamed woman, who was the original poster (OP) explained her situation to other users of Reddit and asked if she was wrong in a difficult situation: her sister, who has two children, wanted to take over the OP's newly bought home. Because OP is a single woman with dogs, her sister and mother believed that she did not deserve a big house. 

OP's sister went as far as to demand that she clear out of her home so that the sister and children could move in instead. When the OP refused, she was berated by both her sister and mother for her attitude. 

In her Reddit post, the OP wrote, "I'm a 32 year old woman and I just bought my first house. It has 3 bedrooms, a yard and is just what I need right now. I'm single and have 2 dogs. My sister is 34, has 3 children and lives in a 2 bedroom apartment."

After describing the current home situation of both her and her sister, the OP continued, "Lately, she's been talking about how such a tiny living space is not enough for the four of them. When she got to know about the house I had bought, she became very upset and told me I was being 'wasteful' as I'm single and don't have kids and therefor don't need such a big space." 

The OP added, "I reminded her that what I do with my hard earned money is none of her business. She went on to complain to our mother about how 'selfish' I was being. Yesterday evening, I got a call from my mom telling me I should let my sister and her kids move into the house. MY house." 

The OP's sister was not convinced that the OP deserved her home even after this explanation: "I told her that no one was going to live in the house that I paid for but me, and that extra space would be great for my dogs to play in." 

This only enraged the OP's sister and mother, and both women were quite upset that the OP bought this home and wouldn't give it over to her sister.  

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The OP elaborated, "My mom also got very upset with me and told me I was being unreasonable. That my sister's kids are growing and need the space more than my dogs." 

The OP went as far as to offer financial aid to her sister to rent a bigger place, but this was not welcomed either. "My mom got my sister on the phone who shot down the idea, telling me I needed to let her and her kids live in my house. When I refused again, she very generously suggested a 'compromise.' I could live in the house with her and her kids and would not have to find somewhere else to live. She said this as if she was doing me a favor." 

The OP naturally hung up in anger but asked Reddit users if she was wrong to not offer her home to her sister. She found resounding support from others assuring her that she had done nothing wrong. 

One person commented, "I can't believe her mother 'we'll be generous and let you keep living in the house you bought with your own money if you make room for 4 other people.'"

Another person had harsher words: "No trying to be insulting, but is your sister mentally ok? And your mum? Honestly, if you haven't, don't let them know the address, don't let them have keys, if you need it get the police involved."

Lots of people chimed in with this sentiment, telling the OP that she should take extra precautions in case her sister and mother decide to break into their house regardless of her feelings. 

Do you think that OP was right in refusing to give up her house for her sister? Tell us your thoughts, and be sure to ask your friends what they think as well!