She Tells Her Grandma That She’s Been Cheated On So Grandma Tells Her To Do This
A young woman’s husband had been cheating on her, and as you might imagine, she was beside herself with grief and despair. She went to see her grandmother and explained her sadness. She told her grandma of her lost hope, concluding that perhaps it was not worth continuing any longer. The pain was simply too great and her problems seemed unresolvable. If it wasn’t one problem, it was another failure. If it wasn't the cheating husband it was something else.
The grandmother asked her granddaughter to follow her into the kitchen so she could show her, and tell her, something important. Once there, the grandmother put water into 3 separate pots on the stove, setting each of the 3 burners on high until they boiled. Once boiling, she put fresh carrots in the first pot, coffee beans in the second and raw eggs in the third. She allowed each pot to boil for 20 minutes.
Grandma finally turned off the burners and placed the contents of each pot into a separate bowl, the carrots in one, the coffee beans in another and the boiled eggs in a third. The young woman observed her grandmother’s actions intently.
Finally, the grandmother asked, “My darling, describe what you are seeing.”
The young woman responded, “I see carrots, coffee beans and eggs, each in a separate bowl.”
The grandmother drew her granddaughter’s face close to hers and whispering softly, asked her to touch the carrots and describe what she felt. As requested, the young woman squeezed the carrots and indicated that they were malleable and soft. The grandmother then asked her to break opened one of the eggs. When she did, she noticed that the boiled egg was now rigid and hard. Finally, the grandmother asked her to taste the coffee. After sipping the coffee, she commented that it had a full-bodied rich flavor.
The young woman asked her grandmother, “What was the purpose of all this? What was this for?”
The grandmother explained that each of the 3 items was confronted with the same trauma and difficulty, each was boiled for 20 minutes. The difference was in how each item responded.
The carrots were initially hard, firm and strong. After boiling they became frail, flimsy and weak. Contrarily, the eggs were initially delicate, breakable and weak. The hard yet fragile shell protected a gelatinous-like liquid interior. After 20 minutes of boiling, they became solid and firm all over. They became hard-boiled eggs. The coffee beans behaved quite uniquely compared with the other two items. The boiling water had been altered by the coffee beans. The beans in fact modified the water.
Then the grandmother asked her to tell which of these she was most like.
“In circumstances of greatest difficulty, how do you react? Are you like the carrots, the eggs or the coffee beans?”
The grandmother went on and asked her granddaughter, “Are you like the carrot that stands tall, taut and strong and when confronted with difficulty, pain and ill-will do you diminish, soften and fade? Perhaps you are more like the eggs, inside you are soft and gentle but protected by a firm shell. When something severe, negative and even horrible occurs, your heart firms-up, becoming morose and resentful on the inside.”
The grandmother went on asking her granddaughter whether she was like the coffee beans that had actually modified the water through the boiling. The difficult circumstance, the boiling water, altered the water. The situation that caused the pain and difficulty generated a flavorful and full-bodied aroma, a lovely scent and generous taste. Under the worst of circumstances, if you are like the coffee beans, under adversity, you rise to the occasion and improve your circumstances, making things better.
“What do you do my granddaughter, when things are at their worst? Are you like the carrots, the eggs or the coffee beans?”
And then the grandma expressed to her young granddaughter, she should have much joy so as to be sweet, sufficient tribulations to build the strength of character, sadness to keep her humane and sympathetic, and optimism to give her hope to sustain contentment and happiness throughout her life.
The happiest people are not the richest, nor do they have the best of everything. They enjoy what they have.
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