Seven Phrases From Their Children, That Pierce A Mother's Heart Like A Knife

Jan 04, 2019 by apost team

Author Tenneva Jordan’s quote on a simple pie might best sum up the care and selflessness of a mother and her use of words to do good, not harm, to her children’s sensibilities. In the quote, a mother sees five people and four pie slices; she immediately declares she never cared for pie. As children of the women who’ve brought us life, can you say that your words not harm?

She’s near and dear to your heart. You recognize the effort, time, and love she’s put forth so that you could reach adulthood and possibly have your own children. Yet, you may not see how that circle of life comes back around, leaving you to care for both the previous and next generation with the same kindnesses shown to you.

Instead, you may find yourself making sure you have your piece of pie first. You use bitting, passive-aggressive, belittling, demeaning, and devaluing language instead of protecting your mother’s sensibilities as she has yours. Following are the seven phrases that no mother wants to hear from her child.

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Your mother survived your infant neediness, your terrible toddler years of destruction, your teen years of everyone knowing more than her, your college years of breaking the bank, and so forth. Don’t you think she deserves the patience of telling her whatever she needs to hear and however many times she needs to hear it? Likewise, shouldn’t you listen to her heartfelt advice and stories as often as she feels you need them?

Yes, as a mom, she will. Saying anything less is an insult to her character and intelligence. She wants to hear your problems as equally as your successes. Whatever the emotion, circumstance, or action, she will be there. It’s your job to find the right words to tell your own story.

Even if your polite and gracious mother says she understands and for you to be safe and have fun, she’s secretly breaking inside. She knows her clock is ticking away. She knows that every missed opportunity to see you may be the last. Think of all the fun she could’ve had with the money and time she instead gave to getting you that bike you had to have for your birthday or designer jeans you just had to have for Christmas. Doesn’t she deserve the same return valuation in your life?

Those stretch marks, wrinkles, and other not so beautiful aging processes you criticize are partly the result of worry about you and sacrifice for you. Don’t tell your mother she’s aged. Don’t tell her what she needs to do about it. Try appreciating she’s still around for you to talk to, see, and feel the warmth from because so many children out there only have a cold headstone to visit.

Was your mom too busy at any time you ever truly needed her? Likely not. She likely took the time to listen to you gush over your first crush, sit in the stands for your extracurricular activities, or go over and over your homework until you understood it. Again, don’t take time for granted. You never know when it could be the last chance to hear her voice.

If your mom is able to cook for you, then be appreciative. She put love she always has and money she might not have at all in offering it to you. In some cases, your mom maybe eating peanut butter sandwiches the remainder of the week just to serve you that homemade pot pie on her fixed income.

If your mom worked, it was at least in part to provide you with a better life and more opportunities. Don’t remind her of what you feel you missed. Be thankful for the life she helped you mold. You likely gained a greater sense of independence, obligation, duty, and work ethic because of it.

Are you guilty of saying these things to your mom? Do you tell other things that might hurt her deeply? Will you commit to change? Maybe you know someone who needs to read this because they talk poorly to their mom? Leave us a comment with your thoughts.