Quit Arguing With People

Jun 17, 2019 by apost team

Have you ever had to deal with a manipulator? A manipulator is a person who goes through life only thinking of themselves. They have almost no interest in anything that doesn't benefit them. They don't care about destroying relationships in order to get what they want.

Their worst actions leave a path of destruction in other people's lives. If you are in a position where you have to deal with such a manipulator, you can use these five tips to redirect them away from you. No one needs to deal with conflict from someone who deliberately destroys relationships only for personal gain.

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Manipulative people always look for those who have lower self-esteem. It's much easier to feed off their already weak state. Present yourself with confidence. Tell everyone that you are a person of value. Stand up for what's important. Manipulators will avoid you because they won't have the ability to persuade you to do what they want. Be aware. Manipulators will be persistent, coming back time and again to see if you will do their bidding. Remain confident and they will go away.

Dealing with a manipulator requires resiliency. One common strategy is to pry information out of you to see how you view the world and what your opinions are. They will use that information to try to manipulate you to do things for them. A manipulator sees personal information as a weapon to turn against you. They want to gain your trust. Don't give them the opportunity. Be resilient to anything they say to you and don't give into their lies.

You have the right to say "NO" to anyone at any time, for whatever reason you want. This is especially true with someone trying to manipulate you. They can't do anything about it. Don't argue with someone like this. Tell them "NO." Use whatever tone of voice you choose, but say "NO." "NO" is a powerful two-letter word with a clear meaning. If they don't or won't listen, call the authorities immediately.

Manipulators will use any means necessary to convince you that they are right and you are wrong. They will create a big scene in front of an audience, telling you that you aren't thinking straight or your life is a total mess. It's all a ruse to break you down and make you bend to their will. Don't let them tell you how to feel. You know how you feel, not them. Not anyone else on the planet. Tell them how you feel and then walk away. They don't have the power to tell you what to do or how to feel.

As said before, manipulators are persistent. If you have tried everything, and that person won't stop, tell him or her, "I need you to speak to me in a calm manner. I need you to stop saying insulting things. I need you to speak in a kind tone of voice. I need you to take care of those things yourself."

When you start a sentence with the phrase "I need you to...", you communicate that they are not the one in control. You are the one making demands. If they don't comply, then you need to stop arguing and walk away.

Hopefully, these tips will help you deal with the manipulators in your life. Let us know if these tips were helpful to you and give others the chance to read them for themselves by passing this article along.