Parents Who Do These 5 Things Raise The Happiest Children

Jan 03, 2019 by apost team

These days, it can be very hard to know what we need to do to raise happy, healthy, and independent children. It is well known that those who are raised in healthy families fare much better than those who come from dysfunctional ones.

Sometimes, it seems like so much emphasis has been placed on what not to do such as drugs, heavy drinking and defining what constitutes abuse that we have lost sight of what does work. Fortunately, some light has gradually been coming back to some healthy habits that have been shown to work.

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If your home is a two-parent one, the relationship that you have with each other is the most important example that you will set for your children. It is the one that colors your child’s view of what adult relationships are like the most. Children also often repeat their parents’ patterns without really knowing that they are doing so, too.

If you are a single parent, how you interact with other adults is the most important example you set for them. You will also have the best chance of raising your child to be healthy if you know yourself well and maintain a strong healthy relationship with yourself.

This may seem like a no-brainer. But too often, parents are falling short in this department. Remember, your children watch every little thing you do while you’re around them. This has been found to start as early as infancy before they can even talk in a way that you can understand.

While it may now be easy to understand what constitutes abuse, there is also the more subtle stuff as well, such as how much you allow them to watch you fight with each other or with other adults, and whether you use curse words. It's important to be careful not to let yourself or anyone else single them out or to bully them. Your tone of voice also counts as well. You may mean well but if you shout when you talk, it frightens them and is not healthy.

This may not always be easy but if you’re constantly stressed out, it affects your kids, too. They don’t yet know how to identify their emotions in an abstract way and can’t yet tell the difference between their own and mirroring someone else’s.

Believe it or not, it’s not the amount of time that you spend with your kids that counts. It’s what you make of your time with them that does.

It is much better and easier for them to want to connect and learn those skills as they go now. Those who don’t often stumble in ignorance as adults and they tend to get left behind within society as a result. At the very least, they need to learn enough skills to get and keep a job because that’s what makes the difference as to whether they’ll have a home. It also reduces their likelihood of falling into drug, alcohol addiction or ending up in prison.

Also, even though it’s hard for many people to face, you’re not going to be around forever. There may also come a time when your kids will have to care for you. You definitely don’t want them to not be self-reliant then.

Failing is a part of life. It means that something is simply not working out in life. It means that there’s a need to try a different approach. Sometimes it just means that something isn’t meant to work out. In fact, experts recommend looking for such natural consequences as much as possible. As opposed to punishing them all the time, for example.

If you teach your kids that failure is bad, they’ll go out of their way to avoid it at all costs. They’ll associate it with judgment, being bullied and worse, makes them a bad person overall. This also deters their chances of being successful later on in life due to a that negatively fixed mindset. This is also what often makes for perfectionism and a lot of unnecessary self-blame down the road.

The world needs more people who are motivated to succeed in ways that are healthy and don’t let anything hold them back. It begins at home, which means that it begins in childhood. Your job as the parent is to help raise your child to be happy, healthy, and motivated enough to go after such success.

This also means raising your kids to be the kind of people who are in control of themselves and don’t give up on themselves. So do your kids a big favor and always encourage motivation, health, and happiness.

How many of these did you do while raising your children? Let us know in the comments and pass this along to parents you know to spread the word of how to raise a happy child!