Nice Girls Finish First: Here's Why We Will Never Let The World Take Our Kindness

Jun 20, 2018 by apost team

Nice girls around the world know the burden of caring too much. Maybe your selfless actions are met with selfish responses. Perhaps you put your whole heart into your friendships and romantic relationships, without ever receiving equal care in return. After years of watching as their kindness and compassion is shrugged off by an indifferent world, nice girls may try to harden their hearts. They may try to exchange their compassion for narcissism, or block out their tenderhearted instincts. While the temptation is understandable, however, nice girls shouldn't take the bait.

Nice girls shouldn't stop letting their compassion guide them. They shouldn't stop loving their friends and family with boundless affection. They shouldn’t stop smiling at strangers or being kind to cashiers. There's nothing wrong with caring, and nice girls shouldn't let an indifferent world convince them otherwise.

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Nice girls care, and there's nothing wrong with that. They care boldly and without reserve, and they give away their love without expecting that it will be returned to them. The idea that there's anything wrong with compassion or vulnerability—that's what's wrong.

The world rewards people who can turn off their empathy. It rewards the people who can harden themselves against injustice and unkindness, and tuck their vulnerabilities into a far away corner of their heart. But there's nothing natural about hiding your vulnerabilities beneath a hard carapace—it doesn't make you invulnerable, it just makes you cold. This is a sad, dispassionate way to live your life. Nice girls shouldn't let the fear of being hurt by others lead them to hide their emotions. In the end, they'll only be hurting themselves.

Selfishness takes a psychic toll. It's not healthy to look for fault wherever you go or to think of no one but yourself. It's not healthy to spread negativity. If nice girls stop approaching the world with empathy, they'll find themselves all alone. Isolation is a high price to pay.

For the jaded, it's easy to interpret kindness as clinginess. These cynical interpretations fail to see the authenticity of compassion. For girls who feel strongly and love easily, compassion isn't a youthful folly they need to outgrow—it's them at their most authentic. They shouldn't let naysayers chip away at their core personality. They shouldn't hide their kindness away for fear of reproach. They should share it with as many people as possible.

Nice girls shouldn't stop being true to themselves. They shouldn't let broken hearts affect their outlook on life. They should let themselves truly feel—the disappointments as well as the joys—and be proud of it. Because in the end, the nice girls who care may be the ones to save us all.

Do you ever feel pressured to feel less? Let us know about your nice girl struggles in the comments section below!