Love Yourself Including Your Flaws And Strengths, And Don't Wait For Anyone's Approval To Be Who You Truly Are

Nov 29, 2018 by apost team

You may find yourself often doing things simply because you have to do them, not because you have any desire to. This doesn’t mean the hard work you put in at your job to earn money or your family responsibilities. I am talking about all of those things you do that are only for the benefit of other people. We often try to project a type of image of ourselves that really isn’t who we are.

We create a mask that we put on to face others around us. Sometimes, you end up not really recognizing that person anymore. We put on a false façade to prove to the world we are a happy, extroverted person.

We do and say things that are meant to win approval of the people around us. This leads to destructive behavior that can really change who we are inside.

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It’s time to start listening to your inner voice and stop listening to what others think you should do. You need to worry about the most important opinion of all- yours. You have to learn how to stop caring about how others view you and start feeling comfortable being yourself. Let’s take a look at a few easy ways to get back on the path of self-enlightenment.

You may discover that it is your inner critic that scares you more than anything. We all have a conscience. However, there may be another little voice that stops you from doing what you really want to do and reaching your full potential. It is the voice that prevents you from doing the right thing. The one that berates you for the smallest mistake.

This voice often gets louder when you do something that you wouldn’t normally do, like leaving a party early. It accuses you of being self-centered and anti-social when really, you just didn’t feel up to a party.

This voice has to be talked to with reason. Explain to your “inner critic” that you can’t always be there for everyone else. Allow yourself the chance to be selfish once in a while. It’s perfectly okay to stand up for what you want to do. Self-respect is important and a trait that will allow you to be who you really are.

Sit and think about the things that really restrain you from being who you want to be. Are you scared that by telling your friends you don’t want to hang out that they will reject you? Are you afraid of being seen as different and eccentric? Or are you really only afraid of your own inner critic?

When you really explore these questions, you’ll begin to understand the reasons you do what you do. You’ll begin a beautiful trip to self-discovery and open up parts of you that you have hidden deeply. Talking about what you fear is the first step to making it go away.

Don’t just blindly agree to take on something new just because someone asks nicely. Before you commit to helping a friend or going to a local event, pause. Ask yourself if you really want to say yes. We often fear to say no to someone else because we do not want to come across as rude or selfish.

We are afraid we will lose friendships if we don’t say yes to everything that they ask of us. However, a healthy relationship won’t suffer just because you turned that person down. He or she will recognize that there is a need for a healthy space. If you push yourself too hard for other people, you will only end up resenting them and yourself.

Prioritize your time- you are just as important. We all have a spark that needs to shine. When you experiment and discover the things you really love to do, you will get that much closer to your inner self. When you find that hobby or talent that truly brings out your best, you will end up connecting with your inner self on a much deeper level.

You’ll become more confident and won’t need to see the approval of others so much. Take the time that you need to really dive deep into doing what you love. It’s okay to be selfish with your time when it comes to this. Enjoy how it feels to be completely lost in this activity, and you’ll begin to gain a better understanding of yourself in the process.

There is nothing wrong with wanting other things in life as long as it isn’t hurting anyone else. You do not have to have the same wants and goals as your friends. Just because you enjoy an activity that they don’t does not mean you are any less of a person.

Don’t ever pretend that you share another person’s view in order to fit in. Remember, being different from someone else does not make you weird. Sure, a different opinion does bring a possibility of conflict with others.

But this isn’t something that you should fear or avoid. Instead, consider conflict a way that you can open up to another person. They may even learn from you and you from them. Staying civil during a conflict can even lead to a more interesting conversation and a better understanding of one another.

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