Kurt Russell And Goldie Hawn Point Out Startling Relationship Rules

Feb 28, 2021 by apost team

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell are one of Hollywood's most enduring couples, having spent nearly four decades together. Hawn is 77 years old, but you wouldn't think it with how active and full of life she is. Her adorable and loving relationship with Kurt, who is 72 years old, is the sweetest. The obvious affection they have for each other is more akin to a group of teenage sweethearts than a couple that's been together for 37 years! They often share sweet moments from their relationship on social media, giving the public a glimpse into their private world.

The couple is also well known for their blended family, which consists of Hawn's two children from her first marriage, Oliver Hudson and Kate Hudson, Kurt's son Boston Russell from his first marriage, and their joint son, Wyatt Russell. Somewhat unsurprisingly, most of their children have followed their famous acting parents into show business. And now their kids have children of their own, making Hawn and Russell grandparents — which they appear to absolutely love.

Although the couple has never hidden their love — they often show affection alongside their social media posts together — from time to time they open up even further and discuss what exactly makes a relationship work long-term. And considering the success they've had together, many people around the world would love to know their secrets! They've previously spoken of why they've never gotten married, as well as their thoughts on monogamy. In a 2017 interview with People, Hawn spoke on the latter topic, suggesting their relationship might be more open-minded than we've thought. 

Initially meeting in 1966 on the set of a Disney movie titled "The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band," Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell didn't get together until nearly two decades later when they worked together on the movie "Swing Shift" in 1983. It seems their age difference was the problem when they first met, as Hawn said much later in a BBC interview:

"I was 21 and he was 16. I thought he was adorable, but he was much too young. Then, years later we met up again, and I remembered that I liked him very much when I first met him. We both said we would never go out with another actor so it just shows you never can tell."

After getting together, the couple became inseparable and would even star in more movies together, including 1987's "Overboard," which was a big hit, and more recently in "The Christmas Chronicles" (2018) and "The Christmas Chronicles 2" (2020), where fittingly, Kurt plays Santa Claus and Hawn plays Mrs. Claus.

When they came together as a couple, they each brought children to their partnership — Hawn with Oliver Hudson and Kate Hudson, and Kurt with Boston Russell, who he shares with his ex-wife Season Hubley. After a few years together, they even had a child of their own, a son named Wyatt Russell. The blended family is well known, not only because of its famous matriarch and patriarch but because three of their four children are all actors too — everyone except for Boston has followed in the family business!

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Before the couple got together in the early '80s, they had each forged their own successful paths in Hollywood. Having had an earlier start than Kurt, Hawn was already in the spotlight in the 1970s, even winning an Academy Award in 1970 for her role in "Cactus Flower." Over the next few decades, her filmography would grow to include all kinds of films, but her specialty was in comedy. She was also nominated one more time for an Oscar in 1981 for "Private Benjamin," but lost.

Meanwhile, Kurt's career was firmly rooted in action movies, earning him the status of a Hollywood hunk. He's also received various award nominations, including a Golden Globe Award nomination for his work on "Silkwood" in 1984, however, he did not win.

While the couple continued working prolifically in Hollywood after they got together, they also placed a lot of importance on family. Despite Kurt not being their biological father, Oliver and Kate Hudson have spoken of how close they are with him as if he were their real dad. Just this year in January, Kate opened up on "Today" about the "41-year-old issue" of her father abandoning her and her brother. Despite the hardship she's faced with her biological dad, she did comment positively on how she was raised by her mother and Kurt, stating:

"I have a beautiful mother. I have a stepfather who stepped in and played a huge, huge part in sharing what it is to have a dependable father figure in our life, but it doesn't take away from the fact that we didn't know our dad."

However, although their family is of the utmost importance to the couple, one interesting thing about their relationship is that they've never chosen to get married. Hawn openly discussed the topic in a 2007 interview with "Woman's Day" magazine. Asked why they won't head down the aisle, Hawn responded: 

"Because we have done just perfectly without marrying. I already feel devoted and isn't that what marriage is supposed to do? So as long as my emotional state is in a state of devotion, honesty, caring and loving, then we're fine."

She goes on to mention their children and how they've managed to raise them into "beautiful people," adding:

"We did a great job there and we didn't have to get married to do that. I like waking up every day and seeing that he is there and knowing that I have a choice. There is really no reason to marry."

Considering theirs is one of Hollywood's longest-lasting relationships, they've clearly proven their point that marriage is unnecessary as long as there is love, respect, and mutual compassion towards one another. Kurt even weighed in on the topic in an interview with the "Daily Mail" in 2018, saying:

"Everyone has their marker on what is really important and where you draw the line. For Goldie and me, that core value was this: the kids come first. That big movie I turned down came at an age when they really needed one of us around."

They clearly know what it takes to make a relationship and family dynamic work, even amid the uncertainty of a Hollywood lifestyle.

Although they've been Hollywood's golden couple for nearly 40 years, with a seemingly perfect relationship, Hawn shared some interesting thoughts about monogamy in a 2017 "People" interview. Stopping short of revealing whether the couple had fully practiced monogamy themselves, she spoke of how difficult it was:  

“Monogamy is a very tough order. You’re in the prime of your life, you are attracted to other people, potentially, you have fantasies about that. It really runs the risk, if you will, if you’re not aware that you could maybe screw up a really good thing by doing that.”

Asked how she and Kurt handle those tough feelings, she answered:

“I’m sure I’ve been party to it, and Kurt’s been — we’re all normal this way. It’s like, ‘You really liked that guy, didn’t you?’ Or the woman says, ‘You were looking at her.’ My answer would be, ‘Of course. Why not? She’s beautiful.’ Would you want a man who doesn’t look? Who doesn’t feel inspired by the beauty or the curves of a woman’s body? Or the way she is? I mean, come on. We’re human beings. There is, I guess, an elasticity to the relationship. Otherwise it’s going to break, just like a rubber band.”

It's somewhat surprising but also humbling to know that even they have to deal with such things in their relationship too. And maybe that's the key to their strong bond — they don't overlook the difficult aspects of a relationship, but rather speak openly about them and accept their existence. 

In the same interview with "People," Hawn spoke further about what makes a romantic partnership work:

“Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex. If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done.”

They certainly appear to tick all of those boxes. From their frequent social media posts that are both sweet and hilarious to their joint interviews, and even receiving stars on the Hollywood Walk of Fame that are side by side, the couple appears to always be enjoying themselves, each other, and life in general. Their joint ceremony that unveiled their Walk of Fame stars was so sweet, with Kurt ending his speech with some loving words to Hawn. She told "People" in the same interview how touching it was:

“It turned out to be a lovefest. The last thing he said was, ‘I’ll always cherish you.’ I didn’t expect him to say those things. I had no idea he was going to be so beautiful.”

As well as cherishing each other so deeply, they also know that alone time is just as important. Once asked in an interview with ITV's "Loose Women" about the ideal amount of time to spend with your partner in a relationship, she revealed candidly:

"It depends on what year or era you're in in your relationship. In a healthy, longer term relationship, I would say it's great to be together about 68% of the time."

Never short on relationship advice, the happy couple certainly seem to practice what they preach.

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