I’m Slowly Unlearning To Run After Love

Nov 14, 2018 by apost team

I have learned from experience not to chase another person. It is much more beneficial to focus efforts on myself.

I admit that I am uncomfortable with the change I see in myself when someone is interested in me. I often transform into someone I am not. It is easy to lose oneself in search of approval from another. This is also a surefire way to end up with less than you deserve.

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My mind will often become totally centered around spending time with this new person. I will wonder for hours what he thinks of me and dissect over and over again everything that can possibly go wrong. My mind becomes my biggest enemy and taunts me with thoughts of my own inadequacy.

It was after many trials of this nature that I began to realize all I really have is myself. I am much better off working to make myself happy than attempting to fill voids with the presence of another person. A life filled with faith, light, and positivity will always be superior to one that is validated by another person.

I know now that I am an authentic person who is capable of thoroughly enjoying life without chasing the temporary joy provided by another person. I am much better off when focused on those that love than I am chasing someone who does not.

The right person will come along, and I don't really have to chase them! This knowledge will prevent me from wasting time and energy on other meaningless relationships.

Though I have learned the hard way nothing you do can make a person feel for you in a way they do not, I am glad for the lesson learned. The most useful pills are sometimes the most bitter to swallow.

There will be no chase when the right person reveals themselves. They will be as committed to a lasting relationship as I am. They will not concentrate only on the things I am able to do for them but will also want the best for me. They will demonstrate that I am a priority to them and not only an option.

I say with much-acquired wisdom that it is better to thrive while single than to allow the wrong person access to your heart.

I do not intend to give the impression that being single is easy. I often dream of meeting my soulmate. I dream of the day I can love endlessly and have these feelings reciprocated.

I long for someone that will celebrate my wins with me and console me through disappointments. And I still feel that this person will appear at the correct time and in the right place.

I also know I will not settle for anything less than I deserve. I will never again bend over backward to accommodate someone who is no good for me.

This time is not an easy one for me. But with loved ones, faith, and most importantly, myself, I will make it through this time.

Have you ever felt that you were getting less than you deserve from a relationship? Did you give your all to hold on to this person? Send this article to your friends. They will benefit from the story of a woman who stopped settling for less than she deserves.