If Your Partner Does These 13 Things, It Will Be The Best Relationship Of Your Life

Jul 18, 2018 by apost team

We waste so much of our young dating lives figuring out what we will and will not put up with in relationships. Much of this has to do with our own feelings of self-worth and our prior relationships. As we work those issues out, we can see with more clarity who is looking back at us across the cocktail table.

Wouldn't it be wonderful, though, if we could have a manual that outlined what we need to look for in a healthy relationship? Let's face it, though. People aren't perfect; we all make mistakes, and at the end of the day, we need to know what aspects of that other person's personality are mere annoyances and which ones are deal breakers.

Here is how to create the best relationship of your life with someone who consistently does these 13 things:

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If your date is more intent on looking at a phone screen than at you, that's probably an indicator that you don't rank very highly in their book. Keep in mind, a relationship is at its BEST when two people are dating--people are on their best behavior, so if this is the behavior that you are seeing at the beginning of your relationship, then keep on looking.

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If getting up and getting the tv remote is too much for them to do for you, then what will they do when the chips are down and you really need support? Someone who picks you up at the airport at 3 a.m. when they have a 6 a.m. conference call is someone who is more likely to be a candidate for a long-term relationship.

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If your date would rather spend every Saturday night with friends than with you, they most likely have some commitment issues. If they are using Tinder and swiping right when having dinner with you, it's time to cut them loose.

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Do you want to learn to scuba dive? Would you like to express your artistic side by dying your hair purple and learning to paint? The right partner will support your endeavors, to the extent that they aren't detrimental to the both of you. However fancy your flight is, they are right there with you, cheering you on.

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Do you laugh together? Do you joke around? Is a trip to the grocery store with them more fun and enjoyable than going by yourself would be? If so, then the two of you are most likely compatible for the long haul. Someone who seems stressed, angry and irritable all the time is no fun to be around; consider finding someone who makes you laugh.

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Do you get chicken soup and a foot rub when you are sick? Do you get covered with a warm blanket after falling asleep on the couch? Someone who thinks of your own needs before their own is a good partner. Take care of them as well, and the relationship will go smoothly.

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Yelling, stomping feet, and slamming doors are all very immature ways to try to resolve conflict. Look instead for someone who is expressive, calm, and can get their point across without berating you or adding additional stress to the situation.

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Someone who introduces you to friends and family members and announces the terms of your relationship is glad to be with you. On the other hand, refusing to spend time with friends, family members, and business associates when in your company is a sign that they don't consider you good relationshp material. Not your problem.....time to move on.

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Finding that your mate has planned a date without you having to lift a finger? That one's a winner. Someone who now sits on the couch and watches tv night after night, expecting the magic to keep happening? Not so much. A partner that invests time and effort into the relationshp is someone worth keeping.

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If stressful situations and emotional upheavals cause your date to run in another direction, that is a sign that they are not completely emotionally available to you. Successful relationships involve two people who are open, honest, and vulnerable with each other. Look for someone that you can share the tender moments in life with.

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Everyone desires a compliment once in awhile. From the way we look to what we cooked for dinner, we just want to be appreciated. A partner that praises and appreciates you values you--this feeds the soul and uplifts the heart, connecting the two of you even more.

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Are you excited or stressed about your future together? Do you see great things, anticipate creating together, and get excited about all that you will do? If not, ask yourself what you are feeling. You don't want to end up committing to someone that you can't see a future with.

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They've seen the good, the bad, the ugly, and they are STILL there. Through thick and thin, they declare their love for you, and they feel as strongly about you as you do about them. Someone who considers you their future will tell you that; look for that long-lasting love that stands the test of time.

Having a great relationship is possible, but you also have to be a great partner. In order to pull these things into your life, you need to embody the qualities of a great partner as well. Work on improving your own relationship skills while attracting that perfect partner, and you will create lasting love in your life. So pass this on to your friends and loved ones.