If You Think You're Going To End Up Alone, You Need To Read This

Dec 14, 2018 by apost team

Life can feel meaningless and devoid when you’re alone. If you feel like life is over just because you’re single, then this is a must read for you to understand it’s not. Your life is far from over; it just needs a new perspective. You’ve heard the old adage that it’s better to be by yourself than with bad company?

While it may be somewhat trite, it’s certainly true. Single life can be beautiful, though, but it requires you to recognize that you are a complete individual on your own.

You are complete, whole, and enough all on your own. A partner simply enhances and supports that best you who’s already in the works. They don’t create or define it. So, don’t be depressed at being alone. Use this period of time to reflect on yourself and work toward that best you possible and living your best life possible.

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Whether it’s a dance or cooking class, losing unwanted weight, traveling, furthering your education, or beginning a new hobby, take this time to do all the things for yourself that you’ve put off because relationships take time and energy. This time of being single is about focusing on yourself and being as selfish with your time as you’d like.

By doing the above you’ll find your life is enriched with self-fulfilled happiness and satisfaction. Guess what? The secondary benefit is that when that special someone does enter your life, you’ll be the best version of yourself possible and not feel the need to be completed by anyone.

You’ll likely never be in a happy relationship if you’re not happy when you’re single. Don’t pine over what’s been lost or unattainable. Don’t blame yourself or hold a grudge against others for past failures. Don’t let previous failed relationships define who you are as a person.

Find ways to productively cope and move on from those traumas. Take what you’ve learned and harness it to make yourself a more wise and capable human being. Again, remember that all this work is for you, not anyone else. By the end, you’ll see that the only person who controls and defines your happiness is yourself.

Take an inventory of your successes. You’ll likely find that your employment, friends, and family are great success stories. So, before believing you’re doomed to be alone, take note of all the places your presence is an invaluable and positive addition. You have two choices. The first choice is to be depressed and negative about being single.

The other is to pull yourself together and live your life to the fullest with the knowledge that there’s more to you than just having a significant other. Now is the time to live for yourself, love yourself, and encourage yourself.

Do what makes you happiest. Do what helps you grow and thrive as an individual. There will be plenty of time in the future to refocus on adding someone else to the equation that is your life. For now, though, just concentrate on yourself.

The right person, at the right time, will show up and end your belief that you’re doomed to be alone. It often happens at the unexpected times and when you’re not actively searching. Are you ready?

Being single is that preparation phase for true love. It’s a time designed to prove to yourself just how strong you are alone and to reflect on both the person you want to be and be with for the long haul.

In having a better relationship with the authentic, unfiltered, and unrestrained version of your true self, you’ll be prepared for when true love comes knocking at your door. You’ll finally see that your maker didn’t intend for you to settle for just anyone when the right someone is out there waiting for you. Why you had to wait so long for him/her will finally be clear.

There are few certainties in life aside from the fact that nothing lasts forever. Everything has an expiration date, including being single. Believe that love is out there waiting for you.

In the meantime, don’t fret over being single. Don’t force a relationship just to say you’re in one. Don’t turn over rocks and lower your standards to just take whatever you find.

Instead, use this time to know thy own self, improve what you don’t like, connect with things greater than yourself on a spiritual and intellectual level, strengthen platonic relationships, have fun, and establish boundaries and deal breakers within your personal relationships.

Remember that the only thing within your control is your own self. From fortune to freedom, everything can be taken from you in your life. There’s one huge exception, and that is how you respond to it. Respond to being single with a commitment to love yourself first and foremost. After all, if you don’t love you, then how can anyone else love you?

Do you still believe you’re doomed to being single? What do you plan to do with your time as a single person? Tell us about it in the comment section. Pass this along to all the single girls you know!