If You Can't To Do These 8 Things With Your Partner, It's Not Meant To Be

Nov 30, 2018 by apost team

The idea of a soulmate is something that has been widely discussed and believed in our society. Although some people may debate the existence of soulmates, the idea of falling in love with one person forever and having them alongside you to walk through every aspect of life with is quite romantic.

If you believe that you’re destined to be with one soul forever, it’s probably a comforting thought to you. You also may believe in fate, the idea that your destiny is already predetermined. While the majority of people do believe in soulmates, how do we go about finding the right one?

It can be a comforting thought that your soulmate already exists out there and is waiting for you to find them. Although the idea of one true match is romantic, soulmates cannot be scientifically or factually proven. We have to take a more rational and realistic approach to find the right partner.

It’s true that everyone can find a happy and healthy relationship with someone that they love. But we need to make sure they meet our criteria and standards before we decide that they’re the one. Before you settle down with the person you believe is your soulmate, you better make sure that you’re able to do these 8 things together!

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Your relationship should not feel uncertain or traumatic. It should be a safe haven where you’re allowed to feel comfortable and secure. Your partner should be able to repair any damage you’ve suffered through in the past and make you feel whole again. You shouldn’t feel like your insecurities or flaws are being picked apart, and you should feel absolutely comfortable and safe with your partner.

If you’re not having fun together as a couple, then your relationship just isn’t right for you. Being able to have fun is a part of life that no one should take for granted. If your relationship is all work and no play, you know it isn’t the right one for you. Relationships with no jokes or laughs won’t last in the long run.

You should make sure that your partner and you are able to not only shop together but shop for each other as well. Being able to select things that each other would like means that you truly know each other inside and out and are meant to be.

Not only that, but relationships that want to sustain a long-term commitment need to be able to work together when they shop, such as grocery shopping for the house and furniture selection. If you can’t make it work, they aren’t the one.

Honesty is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. In order for the relationship to work, it has to be genuine. Transparency between partners is key to communication skills. If you feel like you’re hiding anything from your partner, they just aren’t the one. An ideal relationship has open and honest communication between both partners.

The two of you should be able to have fun without doing anything in particular. It should feel comforting to also be able to sit in silence without having to make small talk or without feeling forced to communicate. Even if you’re just sitting around on the couch or laying in bed, it should feel comfortable, genuine and secure. Enjoying the silence together can bond you like nothing else.

Just because you decide to date someone does not mean that you need to give up your independence or individuality. Boundaries should be set at the beginning of a relationship so that no lines are crossed, but you need to have respect for the other person’s personal space as well as their privacy. If someone constantly invades your space and doesn’t know how to back away when you need some time alone, they aren’t the one.

You should never feel like you need to give up on your goals just because you’re in a relationship. If your partner is standing in between you completing your dreams, they aren’t the ideal partner for you. They should support every aspect of your life and help you become the best version of yourself. They might help you be productive, or at the very least, should offer support in order to help you achieve your goals.

In order to have a successful long-lasting relationship, you must be able to communicate effectively with each other. If you feel like there are certain things you can’t tell your partner, or you’re tiptoeing around their feelings, they aren’t the right one for you. You should be able to tell them anything, even your deepest and innermost feelings and secrets.

Although the idea of a soulmate is romantic, it can be hard to know if you’ve found the right one. With so many potential partners out there, how can we be certain that we're in the right relationship? By looking for a few specific traits it can help to simplify things. Before settling, you should make sure that you and your partner can do all 8 of these things together.

Are you in a relationship? How many of these traits can you identify in your partnership? Is there anything else you think is important to a healthy relationship? Let us know in the comments and send this article along to your friends in relationships so they can see if they're truly meant to be!