If He Wanted To Be With You, He'd Be With You. It Really Is That Simple

Dec 19, 2018 by apost team

It will never feel good but being hurt by the truth is much better in the long run than finding temporary comfort in a lie. The truth will always surface at some time and truth realized later can bring much more pain.

One often overlooked truth is not so difficult to understand: If it is you a man wants to be with, he would be at your side.

It is easy to tell yourself it is complicated. Or maybe the timing for him just isn't right. You might want to lay the blame anywhere except where it truly belongs.

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For this reason, you will sometimes wait years for the man you want to decide it is time to truly be yours. You convince yourself that one day all the complications will be cleared and all your waiting will be worth its while.

This approach will only serve to break you down bit by bit. The situation will never be less complicated for the man you are waiting on.

The reasons for him to hold onto you without committing are many. He could be using you to make someone else jealous. Maybe he is a toxic individual that needs women on whom he projects his insecurities. It could also be that he simply used you to pass the time.

You hold on because you think that he could be the right guy for you and you do not want to give up too soon. Maybe he indeed causes you to feel good about yourself. However, this does not mean he wants to be with you. He could also like you without thinking you are the one. It could also be you would be the one if the one was not at home waiting for him.

The scenario is really irrelevant. The man would be with you if that is what he wanted. There would be no need to think about anything, it would be his instinct to be with you. It is time to face the ugly truth that it is really not that complicated.

It is time you stop making excuses to justify his actions. To put things in perspective, it is only necessary that you consider the fact of your own life. If you truly wanted a man, would there be any excuses for you to not allow him full access to your life?

There is no way you would allow someone you want in your life to ever think they are not a priority to you. You would stake your claim, fight for what you want, and let nothing stand in your way. There is nothing to stop the man you are making excuses for from doing the same thing.

The situation can end in two possible ways for you. To be honest, both bring heartbreak. The good thing is you have the choice to endure a single heartbreak versus having your heart broken over and over again.

It is you that is repeatedly breaking your own heart by constantly justifying the actions of a man who does not want to be with you. It is you that chooses repeated heartbreak by continuing to wait for a man that you are sure will never choose you to be his.

You will suffer a single heartbreak if you make the choice, to be honest with yourself. There is but one heartbreak if you decide not to deceive yourself again. You should make yourself a priority. Allow yourself the one heartbreak that comes along with accepting the truth and move on completely afterward.

Have you ever held out hope for someone who refused to commit to you? How do you cope with the fact that someone might not feel the same way about you? We would love to hear about your experiences. Show this article to your friends who are always there for you.