I Don't Need A Man Who Will Solve My Problems, I Need A Man Who Won't Become One

Aug 23, 2018 by apost team

A woman does not need a man to be successful. This does not mean the woman has anything against being in a relationship. It means she wants love but can be successful without it. She must make the choice to love because it is what she wants, not what she needs. Women do not expect a man to fix their problems but will not accept a man if he becomes the problem either. 

A common misconception is you need a man in your life to survive. You do not need a man to be successful and you can stand on your own. Despite this, you may be a hopeless romantic. You may even be desperate for love. This does not mean you will allow a man to rule you simply to be in a relationship. This would not be love because love is not about controlling someone or making your choices for you. Love is about support, motivation, acceptance and inspiration.  

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Love is a choice you must make not a necessity. When you do fall in love it will be a conscious choice to be with that person and remain by their side. You will stay in the relationship because you want to take care of and love that person. This does not mean you expect them to carry you or pick up when you slack off. This is not how a healthy relationship or love works. Carrying the weight of two people is too much pressure for anyone. Nobody can consistently give 200 percent and work double time.  
 

You must both make an investment in your relationship. You are probably not searching for the classic knight in shining armor because you are not a damsel in distress who needs to be saved. You are most likely searching for a genuine partner you can face the world with hand in hand. You do not want a man to solve all your problems. You want a man who will look into your eyes and let you know he believes you can accomplish whatever you need. This man will not block any of your dreams.

You do not want a man who will do all of the work for you. You need a man who will not get in your way. You want a man who will smile as he watches you hustle because he is proud of your accomplishments. You do not need to find a savior because you are a woman that does not need to be saved. What you really want is a genuine partner in life. Someone to build a future with instead of someone trying to build your future for you. Someone who will stand by you and let you be you.  

Let's be honest: almost every woman will be able to relate to the content in this post. Telling other women about what you have read and learned will help someone else.