Husband Demands Wife To Stop Dressing Frumpy And Mom-Like After Having Baby

Aug 26, 2021 by apost team

Women who have been dreaming of becoming a parent look forward to pregnancy and everything that comes with it. Pregnancy is a unique and joyful time for mothers, but it isn't always butterflies and rainbows. The experience of pregnancy differs from mother to mother; for some women, it is a breeze while for others, it is filled with health issues that cause anxiety. Either way, all parents waiting for their baby know that when the time for birth comes, it is a joyful and delightful event. 

However, as wonderful as it is to welcome a new member into the family, a baby completely shakes up the family dynamic. Not only is the parents' romantic relationship affected by the new child, but their entire life is rearranged to make the baby their number one priority. This means that their social circle, as well as extended family members, are affected as well. 

It is only natural that a romantic relationship may be tested during this time, but with understanding and love, all relationships survive the difficult time. One man voiced his concern about how his relationship with his wife was affected since giving birth. He said that his wife no longer dressed in a "sexy" manner anymore since giving birth, and this was starting to affect him. 

He expected that his wife, who was seven months postpartum would begin dressing up for him again like she used to before she got pregnant. However, when he told his wife about his expectations, he was met with anger instead. 

In his Reddit post, the father wrote, "Since she gave birth back in February, the way she dresses is completely different. At first I thought she was just trying to be comfortable post-birth, but now that almost seven months have passed it seems like this change is permanent."

He attempted to clarify what he meant and explained his situation. "I still think she is sexy. She just doesn't dress sexy anymore. Most of her outfits are looser. Think lots of sweatshirts, sweatpants, and tent dresses. Plus they cover a lot more whereas in the past she loved to tease me to get a reaction. The same is true for her underwear. Bras and panties that aren't that nice compared to what she previously wore."

He continued, "I don't think my wife has to always dress sexy for me. That would be unreasonable. However, it would be nice at least a few times a week if she tried to dress up more and like she did before we had our daughter." 

The husband then proceeded to express his thoughts to his wife, "I brought it up to her and she got extremely offended. As much as I tried to clarify that I find her attractive but want her to dress like she used to dress, she took it as me saying I am not attracted to her anymore. She also said that how she dresses is non of my business and if I can't be supportive not to say anything at all." 

He then tried to justify why he told his wife. 

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He asked, "I think this type of communication is important just like I think it's important for us to both try and dress attractively for each other. If we don't provide feedback to each other, how will either of us know if what we are doing bothers the other?"

He may have not thought that most Reddit users would be against him, but almost all comments berated the unnamed father for his attitude. The top comment stated, "she’s only 7 months post partum. Plus is she breast feeding? She is dressing for comfort still it takes a lot longer then [sic] 7 months to 'get back to normal'"

Another user had quite a few words to say to the husband, "Hell I don’t even have a baby and I’m not 'dressing sexy' for my husband in hot underwear and form-fitting clothes a few times a week. Nor is he! I haven’t even seen him wear jeans in weeks."

She continued, "We can’t go anywhere because of lockdown and both work from home; we aren’t dressing up to sit around on the couch. I didn’t dress sexy when I worked in daycare, either."

"If your body is uncomfortable and you’re at home all day with a small creature who mostly pukes and poops on you all day, wearing a lacy thong and a miniskirt is just nonsensical. I can’t believe he expects her to regularly cram her boobs into sexy bras and wear pinched, “going out” clothes when she’s 7 months PP and trying to take care of an infant," she ended her comment. 

The husband has not updated his post with what happened after he posted his question, but hopefully, he was able to understand why his attitude was not right. 

Do you believe that husband was right in expecting his wife to dress more "sexy" postpartum? Tell us your thoughts, and be sure to ask your friends about their opinions as well.