How To Survive A Break-Up Or Divorce With These 8 Self-Love Practices

Jul 06, 2018 by apost team

Breakups can be devastating, but they can also be a time to reassess who you are and where you are headed. The tips below can help you through this rough time.

Short of sleeping with your partner's best friend or stealing all of the money, you are not solely to blame for the breakup. It takes two to make a relationship work or to end a relationship, but try not to fall into a spiral of self-recrimination and obsession about what you could have done differently.

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Relationships rarely end for a single or a simple reason. This might make you all the more tempted to try and figure out why, but this is rarely worth your efforts. When you can't entirely stop these types of intrusive thoughts, the best way to handle to them is to give yourself a narrow window, such as ten minutes, in which to ponder this, and then do something else.

Worrying over a past you can't change is counterproductive, but it is different from grieving. You need time and space to grieve the end of a relationship, and you might need to write down your feelings, scream, cry or engage in another activity to get through your grief. These are intense and frightening emotions, but it's okay to let yourself feel them.

A bad breakup can mean your self-esteem takes a beating. You should take some time to think about your insecurities and whether your partner encouraged them as well as the roots of them. For example, some people's self-esteem is affected by not having a partner, or they take the negative things an ex said to heart.

Both relationships and breakups can leave you questioning your identity. Think of the relationship as one of many life experiences you will have, and consider how it has changed you in various ways. Think about who you were, who you can become and what frightens you about what is ahead.

Sometimes, a relationship involves losing yourself in another person. The end of a relationship can give you a chance to take stock of your boundary setting and decide how much you want to give to family and friends as well as how to say no. You may also want to think about your owns needs and feelings and how to get what you want.

This is an important time to remember that joy comes from within you. Think about what you love to do and how you can find joy regardless of who is in your life.

Your mental and physical health is essential to your well-being. Try to opt for healthy ways to indulge, such as a hot bath or a long walk, instead of unhealthy foods.

By following the above suggestions, you can get through a breakup and come back stronger than you were before.

Show this article to your friends and family members who are going through a breakup to help them deal with it.