How The Mistakes In Your Love Life Will Lead You To The Love Of Your Life

Apr 27, 2018 by apost team

When it comes to discovering irreplaceable love, your most valuable asset is a heart full of experience, not a head full of knowledge. And, sometimes that heart must be broken along the way to ultimately save it for the greatest love of all. 
 

Did you know that CPR, or cardiopulmonary resuscitation, often involves ribs being broken? To continue blood circulation during coronary failure, the chest must be compressed about two inches, an action that takes around 60 pounds of force. Broken ribs happen quite frequently with both lay and trained providers, with some research showing as many as 86% of men and 91% of women suffering some type of skeletal chest injury during CPR. 

While no one wants a broken bone, just as they don’t want a broken heart, sometimes we have to sacrifice breaking components to save the whole of something. 
 

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No doubt that one of the biggest heartbreaks in life is painful love that must come to an end. Hopes, dreams, and faith have been gambled on the longevity of a relationship and the bet was lost. You wonder why it went so wrong, what you did to ‘deserve’ this kind of pain, and how you’ll ever take that bet again. All of the what if’s and how’s are simply distracting you from the truth. 

The truth is that everyone makes losing gambles at love. There are over 7 billion souls populating this world. That’s a tremendous amount of potential relationships to sift through, all of which simply aren’t designed to take up permanent residency in our hearts. 

There’s your purpose, your answers. As the heart fills with ending and ended relationships taking up more space than added value, it’s inevitable that the investments will lead to heartbreak. It’s this heavy heartbreak, as painful as it may be, that creates the cracks necessary to rid yourself of the toxicity and burden from failed relationships. Ultimately, this is what makes room for the irreplaceable love to come. 
 

Failed love is often seen as a mistake or regret. It’s not. You choose the people you allow into your heart based on the lessons you need to experience in order to challenge yourself to be the best you possible. 

Without knowing what’s wrong, bad, unhealthy, and incongruent ... it would be impossible to ever recognize the flip side of the coin? 

You also don’t gain perspective from ease. If things are always going well with no trials, turbulence, or discomfort, then you never grow and learn. You continue an autopilot path of not rocking the boat. You do what you’ve always done because it’s easy verses what truly makes you happy, thrive, and reach your full potential. 
 

The difficult times, the heartbreaks are necessary to both identify the good and reflect and look forward on how to accomplish that good. It’s the time in life where we are left with nothing but ourselves and how we love to explore. 

So, all the wasn’t meant to be relationships you wish you could erase or modify aren’t to be mistakes and regrets. They’re merely building blocks to teach you the lessons about yourself and love you’ll need in place for that irreplaceable love. 
 

Discovering that love is an action, not a feeling, is a process. Understanding that pure love holds a place in the soul that can never be replaced or diminished will be something that only comes when you experience it, and you will experience it if you allow yourself to let go of anything replaceable. 

Use the times of heartbreak and healing to rid the toxicity. Deeply ponder the makeup of love as an action. You’ll eventually be able to peacefully leave undoable relationships in the past, knowing that their composition centered around other criteria than pure love. Don’t forget that this isn’t just about realizing all the reasons someone wasn’t right for you. Utilize the time to embrace the qualities you do need and that you deserve a whole versus a portion of it. 

That great love may be discovered gently and in unexpected packages or hard fast, and obvious. Either way, you’ll be prepared to recognize it beyond the superficial packages relationships are delivered within. You’ll see the physical mental and emotional healthiness that having unquestionable love adds to your life. You’ll feel the encouragement it offers in fulfilling the best you possible. 
 

Once you find that irreplaceable love, you won’t wonder why the others didn’t work. You’ll know that they were simply carving your heart out to accept the love that isn’t shallow, isn’t a battle, doesn’t need to be conquered, leaves no need unfulfilled, isn’t merely based on words, doesn’t have connection gaps, and doesn’t have stipulations. 

That’s not to say that even irreplaceable love isn’t challenging. Relationships are a series of gives and takes in everyday actions. This balance can become off-center in any relationship. The difference between just any relationship and an irreplaceable one is that your very soul is spurred to right the imbalance as soon as it’s discovered. 

Neither will your great love be the perfect man/woman. Human perfection is a fallacy for poets and dreamers to configure from imagination. What your great love will be is perfect for you, and that is something unique to each of the 7 million souls walking this earth. 
 

In closing, the heartbreaks of life hurt, but if you accept that they are designed for a greater purpose, to lead you to a greater love each time, then you’ll allow room in your heart for the greatest love of all - irreplaceable love. 

Have you found your irreplaceable love? Still searching? Wondering if someone you know already fills that space in your heart? Let us know your story and questions!