Here's How An Emotionally Unstable Person Looks And Acts, According To Psychologists

Jul 27, 2018 by apost team

If you've ever wondered how mature and balanced someone is on an emotional level, this article is written for you. Read these nine traits of a person who lacks emotional stability. Then openly and honestly evaluate how you, or other people who are close to you, measure up. The results could be incredibly eye-opening.

While it's natural to be pleased when others want to be around you, a strong craving for popularity that leads to feelings of despair when that desire isn't realized could be a red flag.

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One way to tell if the desire for popularity has reached an unhealthy level is to evaluate how often a person compares their own popularity with that of others. If you can't be happy when other people are in the spotlight that's a sign of an emotional problem. One big indicator is an obsession with having more likes or views than others on social media sites.

Most people realize that bad hair days and makeup fails are just a part of life. No one can achieve and maintain the ideal look 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Yet for emotionally unstable people an unhealthy focus on looking perfect at all times can rob them of their joy in day to day living.

If you find yourself falling into the trap of being overly concerned with your appearance, try to maintain a more realistic outlook. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin.

For some emotionally unstable people, the thought of other people disapproving of them in any way can instantly darken their mood. Don't allow yourself to be a slave to the opinions of other people.

The fact of the matter is, most people are spending more time worrying about what other people think about them than they are thinking about what anyone else is doing! So don't stress out about what other people think. It's a complete waste of time!

Whether it's being turned down for a date or having someone express disagreement with our political opinions, getting rejected is an unpleasant experience. But for someone who is emotionally unstable, it can be downright devastating. If you can't seem to get over it when someone says no to you, you may be struggling with emotional immaturity.

Try to keep a more balanced perspective. Remember that we are all different, so we aren't always going to agree. Imagine how boring the world would be if we were all the same! 

Having high standards can be a plus, but not when they're taken to an extreme. If you set unreachably high goals for yourself you'll end up being disappointed and disillusioned. This can happen when it comes to personal goals, relationships, workplace expectations, or practically any area of life.

If you want to make real progress, just take the next step. Don't try to scale mountains in a single bound. That's not the way the real world works!

Many emotionally unstable people tend to assume that others have it better than they do. They quickly become envious when they see happy, smiling, attractive pictures of friends or family members on social media. If that's your natural reaction to seeing other people lead happy or successful lives, watch out! This is a sure sign of emotional immaturity.

If you constantly feel sorry for yourself you can rest assured that you're emotionally immature. No matter how good emotionally unstable people's lives may be, they always tend to focus on what they wish they had rather than what they already have. If you tend to wallow in self-pity go out of your way to break this destructive habit by thinking more about all the positive things in your life.

It's fine to want to get other people's input about important life choices. But if you find yourself unable to make even small decisions to the point where you're fully dependent on the thoughts of other people, you may lack emotional maturity. It's okay to take other people's advice, but get confident enough in your own ability to reason that you can make up your own mind most of the time.

Have you ever had a friend that just tries to smother you emotionally? They expect you to be with them all the time, and when you want to hang out with someone else for a change, they get mad? Perhaps that description matches you! If so, that's a big sign of emotional instability. Emotionally healthy people respect other people's boundaries and need for space.

Did you find these indicators of emotional insecurity helpful? Let us know your thoughts and send this to someone who definitely knows an emotionally immature person!