Getting Into A New Relationship Is Not The Only Way To Get Over Someone

Dec 07, 2018 by apost team

Most of us like don't like "losing" a breakup. If you say that you don't care you are likely just lying to yourself or confused. Relationships aren't really a game but that seems to be how a lot of people tend to treat them.

If you can't stop comparing your life to people that were part of your past, you may never find true happiness. You have to find a way to move on from breakups in your own time without worrying about anyone other than yourself.

When one thinks about winning or losing a breakup, this is determined in how they move on. It's usually thought that the one that moves on and commits to a relationship before their ex is the winner. Then the loser would be the one that is slower to find someone new. The thought of being the person sitting at home alone watching tv on the couch isn't appealing. Everyone wants to feel wanted and this is why they feel the need to find someone in a hurry.

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Sometimes, this is not the way things need to go. You don't want to fill your happiness with a new person if it's not the right person. This can be very unhealthy for you. This new person can fill a void that you are feeling. But, what they are doing is creating a happiness that's only temporary. They are filling all the holes that have been left from the previous relationship. It's simply patchwork that won't likely last.

Moving on shouldn't be about how fast you can find someone to share your bed with. It should be about getting back into the game of dating again. The fact is that you can even find someone that you think you are in love with. You can bring them home and meet all of your family but this still doesn't mean that you have completely moved on from the prior relationship.

You must take back ownership of your own life in order to really move on after a breakup. And, getting into a new relationship isn't the answer. This is allowing someone else to own part of you before you really have yourself back to fully give any part of you away. You are constantly giving your attention away to someone else and their needs. You have to focus on yourself right now and the needs you have.

Right now, nothing else matters except you. Everything else needs to be put on hold at the moment. The world is a distraction that you don't need. It's time to find your self worth and really get to know yourself. Find out what truly makes you, you. Date yourself. Think about the things that you really like in life. What are you passionate about? What are some things you have always wanted to do but maybe someone else held you back?

You don't have those limitations anymore. This can be a very freeing time for you. You don't have to think about that ex for one second. Think about yourself and what makes you happy now.

I was in a six year relationship and it took me some time to move on. Once the relationship was over, I was so ready to move on. I hated feeling lonely and empty. I thought that because I hadn't found someone else that I hadn't truly moved on.

I did go on some dates. I did go out with my friends. But, I want's ready to let the people that I met into my life. I did have some fun but I wasn't allowing myself to get into anything more than a casual relationship. I was playing the field constantly and not considering diving deep into anything. I just knew that because of my actions I really hadn't gotten over being with my ex.

Then one day I ran into my ex at a gas station. It was at that moment that I realized I hadn't thought of him in a very long time. Running into him had no impact on my life. That's when I knew I had really moved on and I didn't even realize it.

And, I had done this without starting a relationship with anyone else. The need for someone else was intriguing but I had managed to move on without the distraction of it. I had done this without realizing it because I didn't even know what it meant to truly move on from an ex.

Time doesn't always heal all of your wounds. Finding someone else to get over a failed relationship wasn't something I needed. Learning that moving on can't rely on someone else was something I needed to learn. Finding and depending on yourself is something you will never regret.

Do you have someone you need to let go of? Maybe you need to date yourself for a while and truly let that ex-relationship go.