Fiancé Cheated And Refuses To Help Pay Back Wedding Loan – Bride Sells His Family Heirloom

Jan 11, 2022 by apost team

Engagements to be married are like contracts between two people, which would make the ring collateral. There are some assumptions about who gets to keep the engagement ring when a wedding gets called off. Most believe that whoever calls off the wedding has to give up the ring. But the situation gets more complicated if someone cheats. One woman called off her wedding because she found out that her fiance was cheating on her with his ex-girlfriend.

The woman explained that her wedding cost around $20,000 and so she had taken out a loan to pay for it. At the time, the boyfriend, named Mason, agreed to help pay back the loan because, as a married couple, they planned on sharing their finances. All of this was included in their prenuptial agreement, but because they never got married and the loan is in her name, the boyfriend refused to help pay back the loan.

After this, the woman was in danger of going into debt. She reached out to Mason after the wedding was called off to pick up the engagement ring, which was his family heirloom, but he never showed up. Later, the woman told Mason that she was going to sell the ring, which was valued at $25,000 unless he agreed to help pay back the loan. The man ignored her and told his friends that she was bluffing and wouldn't follow through with it. 

With a lack of a response, the woman sold the ring. After Mason found out, he was furious. Even the woman's family thinks she went too far. She posted the story on Reddit to find out what others had to say about the situation. Read on to see if commenters thought she was in the wrong.

The woman feels she did nothing wrong because she gave Mason ample warning before she sold the ring. She said, "I asked him if he was still willing to help and told him that I will go into debt if he doesn't as I can't repay it alone. He told me 'It isn't my problem you took out a loan you can't pay back' and stopped responding after that."

The woman also explained, "When we got engaged, Mason proposed to me with a family heirloom ring belonging to his great grandmother that was worth $25,000. When we canceled the wedding, he told me he wanted the ring back but we never got around to arranging a time he could pick it up."

When Mason never picked up the ring, she tried to give him an ultimatum. She wrote:

"Because I don't want to go into debt, I told him that if he didn't agree to help pay it off (I wanted a lawyer involved) that I would sell the ring. He didn't reply and ignored the messages, however after talking to a mutual friend (Jake) I found out he had actually read the messages and told everyone he didn't care because I' wouldn't do it.' I asked Jake to tell Mason that if I don't get a message from him in the next 24 hours that I would sell the ring."

Mason never responded, so she followed through and sold the ring. When he found out, he was enraged. "He started cussing me out, saying I didn't scare him and that he would be around for the ring later. True to his word, he came to my house demanding the ring and I told him I sold it already and showed him the proof," the woman said.

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The ex bride-to-be began doubting herself when her own family said she went too far. She ended her post by writing: 

"He blew up at me, saying that I shouldn't have sold it because it wasn't just a ring, it was an heirloom that meant a lot to his family. A lot of my family members think I overreacted and shouldn't have gone to extreme measures as it will be hard for him to get the ring back if he even can at all."

Commenters were on the woman's side. One person said, "This is the exact reason for expensive engagement rings in the first place: so a woman wouldn't be left financially destitute in the event of a broken engagement. It honestly sounds like you dodged a freaking freight train by not marrying that…guy."

Meanwhile, another person pointed out: "Plus, the wedding being canceled was HIS fault! He had choices and he made bad ones. All on him."

Others said they would have done the same thing. A third person added, "She warned him and even had a mutual friend warn him TWICE. Why did he even think for a second she wouldn't sell that ring to get herself out of debt? I would have, and most of my friends/family would have too."

Ultimately, everyone agreed that Mason was at fault. A commenter said, "He literally made the choice for her. She gave him several ultimatums that she would sell it, and he ignored her. Pretty much gave her permission, so he can't complain after the fact."

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