Father Seeks Revenge For Wife's Affair By Refusing To Fund Kids' College Unless They Take DNA Test

Jan 18, 2022 by apost team

Growing up can be extremely exciting for people at any age as they are able to make decisions that could change the course of their lives, both personally and professionally, and become the person they were meant to be. For example, many people around the ages of 17 and 18 are met with the tough decision of figuring out if they want to go to college and then where they want to go if they choose that path.

An online user went to Reddit on Jan. 6, 2022, to talk about an issue he was having with his family and to ask users for their advice on what he should do. The original poster (OP) is set to start college in September 2022 at a pretty nice university but now isn’t sure if that is actually going to happen. It turns out that OP’s mom actually cheated on his dad, and now his dad is unsure if any of the kids are really his or not.

The father had previously agreed to pay for college for all of his children, but now he needed proof that they were actually his kids. If the DNA tests showed that anyone wasn’t related to him, then he would rescind his offer and not pay for their college.

Worried about how he would pay for school and the sake of his future, OP decided not to take a DNA test. However, this has since caused a divide between him and his father, and it’s left him wondering if he should take the test.

Starting off his Reddit post, OP said that his dad recently found out that his mom had an affair but wasn’t sure when or with who. However, they assumed it was around the time she was a stay-at-home mom. “Thing is she had all of us (two brothers one sister) around the same time, so any one of us could not be my father’s,” OP said. 

He explained that his parents were getting divorced and that his dad wanted all of the kids to take a DNA test to prove that they were his biological children. He had previously promised that he would pay for all of their college expenses, but if someone wasn’t his child, then he was no longer willing to do that.

OP continued, “My sister (oldest) did the test because she was confident she was related to our dad. She was likely pre-cheating and she looks the most like him so I was pretty (sure) she was.” OP’s sister is also already in college, so she was relying on the test results in hopes that her dad would keep paying for her school.

“I have a feeling I’m not my dad’s biological kid since I don’t look anything like him and people even have commented I don’t look like the rest of my family,” OP admitted. “I’m terrified because I think he’s upset enough that he won’t talk to me anymore and definitely won’t be paying for my college. I don’t want to take the paternity test because I don’t want to know but if I don’t I probably won’t get college paid for.”

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OP picked a pretty expensive school and didn’t think that he or his mom would be able to afford it on their own. “I’m so mad at her and my dad for putting me in this position,” he said. Not wanting to know the results, OP said he wouldn’t take the DNA test, but his father just said that he would assume he wasn’t his child and wouldn’t have anything to do with him then since he was 18. 

Confused about what to do, OP turned to Redditors for help. They ultimately suggested that he take the test because it was important to know his own medical history and information. One user said, “...If you aren’t your dad’s try to figure out who your biodad is. It will help later down the line if your doctors ever have any hereditary health questions.”

Other users said that the test shouldn’t change the way OP’s dad feels about him. One user said, “Your dad is being awful, I can’t imagine being willing to walk away from my child, and you are his child whatever a blood test says.” Another commented, “This is a no-win for OP. Even if it turns out he is DNA related he’ll always know his dad was willing to throw him away over a piece of paper.”

In an edit, OP explained that he had changed his mind about the test. He said, “After reading some of the comments I’ve decided to do the test. I didn’t want to out of fear but now it’s clear it doesn’t really matter and it’s better I know for sure.”

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