Father's Rules For Dating His Daughters Are A Fit For 2020

Oct 21, 2020 by apost team

For many young women, the stereotype of the overprotective father is very real. They live with anxiety over bringing home a boyfriend because they know the young man will get a serious grilling from their dad. Over the years, there has been the depiction of the overprotective father on screen as a stern, suspicious man who is sure that every young guy that associates with his daughter is going to try and hurt her.

There was even a sitcom entitled, "Eight Simple Rules for Dating My Teenage Daughter." The truth is that women don't need a man, even a well-intentioned father, to fight their battles for them. This idea prompted J. Warren Welch to come up with some rules for dating his daughter that have become very popular because of their support for female empowerment.

Certainly, no one would argue that it is wrong for a father to be concerned for his daughters. It is only natural for a parent to want the best for any of his children. It is also completely understandable that a father would want a young man who is courting his daughter to treat her with respect and kindness. For American poet, and father of daughters, J. Warren Welch, the issue is with the idea of "rules" reports Independent. 

After all, the idea of a father setting rules for dating his teenage daughter gives the impression that she is incapable of setting her own boundaries and commanding respect. If a father sets rules for dating his daughter, he is essentially taking away her autonomy. While the world does hold many dangers for young women, Welch believes that the answer to the problem is empowering women to handle situations with men so they can get the respect they deserve without needing to have a menacing father figure in the background. This philosophy led to Welch's rules.

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In a Facebook post from 2017, Welch posted his rules for dating his daughter. The post read as follows:

"You'll have to ask them what their rules are. I'm not raising my little girls to be the kind of women who need their daddy to act like a creepy, possessive badass in order for them to be treated with respect. You will respect them, and if you don't, I promise they won't need my help putting you back in your place. Good luck, pumpkin."

Welch's post had a huge impact on those who read it. The post got over 68,000 shares, 2,100 comments, and 10,000 reactions. It was clear that the poet's words resonated with those who read it. When you read Welch's post, you can see that he is not a father who is not concerned with daughters' well-being, but is one who trust in their ability to handle themselves as independent women.

When you read Welch's words, you can understand his perspective. By raising young girls to be independent and strong, you create a person that can withstand the challenges and stresses that they will encounter down the line. Those women who feel the need to always go back to their father when they have a setback may struggle when they are left to their own devices. It also reminds us that the principles behind female empowerment should be taught at a very young age.

What did you think of the J. Warren Welch's rules for dating his daughters? Did you grow up with an overprotective father? Show these words to any fathers of daughters that you know and don't forget to message us with all of your thoughts and comments.