Don't Expect Me To Be The Woman You'll Settle For

Dec 12, 2018 by apost team

Becoming the woman I am took time and tremendous effort. After all that hard work, I will never stand silent while my partner treats me like I’m not enough. I should be more than enough on all fronts, and I don’t deserve to be strung along, anyone’s next best thing or second choice, nor anyone’s backup plan. I’m worth more than that, and here you’ll find why I’m not someone you settle on as a partner. Are you?

I must be the only woman on your mind, in your sights, at your touch, and who has your ear. I must be your only bed partner, and I should be who you dream of at night.

I shouldn’t discover you’re seeing me and someone else, too. I deserve faithfulness. If you can’t be faithful, then I don't need you in my life.

Your love for me should be so strong that you’re pained, not relieved, if you can’t spend time with me. I must see that you’ll rearrange your schedule just because you want to see me. I want to know that I’m a priority worthy of stealing some time from even your busiest of days.

If I’m truly more to you, then I should carry the right label. That label shouldn’t be introducing me as a friend or mere date to others when you say I’m so much more in private. I should hear you say I’m your girlfriend in both private and mixed company. If your fears, immaturity, or side activities prevent you from being that partner, then just let me move on to someone proud to call me their own.

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I don’t need to know your every move or hear from you every hour on the hour. I’m not your parent. We both have our own lives to live, but that shouldn’t mean that I go days without hearing from you and become an afterthought only when life is easy or empty.

I must be the person who’s important enough to never slip your mind or fall through the cracks. Don’t say you care and show that you don’t. Words are niceties that should back up your actions. Remember, love is a verb.

I require openness and honesty in everything. I don’t deserve straight-faced lies and deceit. I shouldn’t be faced with emotional walls at every step. I shouldn’t just be privy to the good and positive facets of your life.

You need to show up - both physically and emotionally. My heart, body, mind, and soul aren’t there for the picking only when it suits your needs. I refuse to be the fallback plan or to be mooted when something/someone better comes along. I’m not your doormat. I’m not your toy that you get bored with.

I need you to do nice things for me just to show you care. I need you to plan ahead. I need you to show me that I’m in your thoughts even when we are apart.

I need to be free to express myself. I must be able to tell you anything. I can’t censor myself for fear of frightening, angering, or pushing you away. I should be able to include you in my future plans, and you should want to include me in yours. I need to know I’m a factor as you think about today, tomorrow, and all those to come.

I don’t need someone with a love so fickle that they can’t even commit to next weekend. If you don’t plan on sticking around, then I deserve to know. I refuse to accept a love that’s not all-in for the long haul.

I won’t accept your excuses. I must see consistent effort. I need a partner who goes the extra mile, not who takes the path of least resistance. I don’t need expensive displays or grandiose gestures. I just need your loyalty. Give me as much as you take.

When you picture your life, I should be part of the distant, if not entire, future of it. I will not be something you cherish in the moment and set aside when life gets messy or complicated.

We have a chance to make a solid, loving relationship. We may be successful, or we may fail. But, I need you to give us that chance. I need you to know that I will never be someone you merely settle for when there’s nothing better.

Trust me with your heart as I will trust you with mine. Give me your everything as I will give you mine. I require someone who values me and wants a meaningful relationship with me.

Are you that person?

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