Dad Upsets Wife By Asking Her If She's 'Jealous' Of Their Teen Daughter Following Prom Dress Incident

Aug 27, 2021 by apost team

A confused father took to the internet in August 2021 to ask Redditors whether he was in the wrong for something he said to his wife that completely enraged her. Before the husband and wife had their altercation, they were talking to their daughter about prom, as the 15-year-old student will be attending the dance at the end of the year.

The teenager’s mother mentioned that she still owns her prom dress from when she was younger, and she showed her daughter a few photos of the outfit. 

Later on, when the couple was getting ready for bed, the mother noticed that someone had fished around in her wardrobe and taken her old prom dress. And when she went to see what her daughter was doing, she saw her trying it on and taking photos of herself.

Things go downhill from there, as the father explains in his Reddit post to AITA.

The mother, who is quite upset, curses at her daughter and demands that she take off the dress immediately. The daughter, almost in tears, obliges, and the father starts to think that his wife is a little too harsh.

When he confronts his wife about her anger, he adds fuel to the fire when he asks her whether she’s jealous of their daughter, who, he explains in the post, looks a lot like her mother. This enrages his wife even more — so much so that she goes and sleeps in another room and refuses to talk to her husband the next day.

The husband, who admits that he doesn’t understand why his wife was so angry, asks the Reddit community whether he was in the wrong.

“My wife and daughter look very similar. They've even been called sisters in the past. Based on this, I asked if my wife felt jealous at seeing our daughter wear her dress. When I said this she got even more upset and said she was going to sleep in our spare room. She isn't speaking to me today,” the original poster explained.

“Did I go too far with (that) comment? I'm just trying to figure out why my wife was so angry,” he added.

The Reddit community answered — and let’s just say that they didn’t exactly share the original poster’s opinion.

“Your wife definitely shouldn’t have gotten so angry at your daughter, but most people get pissed when someone takes their stuff without permission and use it in pics for social media. Your daughter started to cry because she did something she shouldn’t have and had no defense for her actions,” one Redditor commented.

“You on the other hand, had the audacity to ask your wife if she is jealous of her own child. And the implication here of what you are saying about your daughter, her body, and her appearance in the dress is absolutely disgusting. Are you seriously comparing how your daughter and wife’s bodies look in a dress??” they added.

Another Redditor jokingly asked, “What's it like having a death wish, buddy? Do you get a rush from it?”

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While the top-rated comment was decisively against the father’s point of view, many Redditors said that there was no clear villain, as everyone in the situation was wrong for how they acted.

“ESH,” one of the top comments read, which means “everyone sucks here.”

“No one has shown anyone any respect. I can bet you there is a story attached to that dress. Your time in the dog house will be related to its level of importance,” they added.

Many comments also noted that the mom was rightfully angry, as her daughter violated her boundaries by not asking permission before rummaging through her closet and trying her clothes on.

“I work on boundaries with my son and young students. Your wife set a boundary and did not invite your daughter to break it,” a Redditor explained. “What if the daughter tore or destroyed the dress? Is it still okay now? I agree that swearing was an overreaction, but the daughter broke a boundary. She was probably crying that she got caught and that her mother was upset. Teenagers have heard swearing before.”

Experts agree that setting boundaries is important to foster healthy relationships.

“Setting clear personal boundaries is the key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, supportive and caring,” Jane Collingwood writes for PsychCentral. “Boundaries are a measure of self-esteem. They set the limits for acceptable behavior from those around you, determining whether they feel able to put you down, make fun, or take advantage of your good nature.”

As for the original poster, he has yet to update the Reddit community even after his post went viral on the platform with 8,000 karma and more than 1,800 comments.

What do you think? Was the mother wrong to curse at her daughter? Was the father wrong to ask if his wife was jealous? Let us know your take, and pass this article on to others.