Can Sleeping In Separate Beds Be Good For Your Relationship?

Feb 14, 2018 by apost team

Sleeping in the same bed with your partner or spouse is pretty much expected when you live together. The minute someone hears you've been sleeping in a spare bedroom or on the couch, they automatically assume there's trouble in paradise. But what if it didn't have to be that way? What if you could be madly in love, but still have an entire bed to yourself each night to move around in as freely as you please?

Is wanting your own bed considered "normal"?

More and more couples are asking themselves, "Who invented this one bed system?" People need space, and have different sleeping habits and quirks that may cause stress and discomfort for their partner. 

Sleeping in separate beds and quarters used to be a sign of affluence. Most people today associate separate beds with their grandparents, which should mean that it's an antiquated practice.

This couldn't be further from the truth, as more and more young couples are starting to sleep apart.

According to Colleen Carney of Ryerson's Sleep and Depression Laboratory in Toronto, 30-40 percent of couples worldwide are starting to sleep in separate beds. It is even estimated that 60% of new homes are being built with dual master bedrooms, according to America’s National Association of Home Builders.

British sleep specialist Dr. Neil Stanley reported that couples suffer 50% more disturbances when sleeping next to someone compared to sleeping alone. If you find yourself waking up still feeling exhausted after a full night's rest, blame your partner! Okay, maybe be nice about it, but consider that you're influencing each other's sleep cycle for the worse. 

You're probably wondering, "But what about our sex life?" Sure, sleeping in separate beds sounds like the final cap on having any kind of intimacy, but that's also not true. Couples have found tiptoeing to each other's beds to have a little rendezvous to be exciting, and brings back feelings from when they were new in love. 

If you've been thinking about asking your partner to give separate beds a try, there's no better time than the present! 

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