Bride Won't Take Calls From Brother After He Refused To Pay Around $27.5k For Her Wedding

Oct 18, 2021 by apost team

Weddings are usually one of the most special days in someone's life. For guests at weddings, it's a wonderful thing to witness two people share their love with their nearest and dearest, which makes weddings not only special for the bride and groom but for everyone included.

Because of how special the day is, it makes sense that the bride and groom want it to go just perfectly. However, that can create a lot of pressure and stress, and it's why there is a reputation for some brides to turn into monsters — known as "bridezillas" — as they plan their nuptials.

Unfortunately, the family of a so-called bridezilla can often feel their wrath the most, since it's likely they might be helping to plan the wedding in some way. Even if they're not helping to plan the event, they might be called on to help in some other way, for example financially.

That was the case for the brother of one bride, who offered his sister £5,000 (about $6,860) to help with her wedding. However, the sister rejected the amount and asked for £20,000 (approximately $27,500) instead. After the brother said he wouldn't be giving that much, the bride got upset and has since refused to answer his calls and even uninvited him to her wedding, despite their father saying he thinks she is being too harsh on her brother. 

In a bid to understand if she or he is in the wrong in the situation, the bride wrote on Reddit's "Am I the A**hole" subreddit and asked users to weigh in with their opinions.

She begins by explaining she is 23 and that she had her 4-year-old daughter at age 19, which meant that she wasn't able to go to university full-time since she was raising her.  

Currently, she's studying to become a history teacher but that combined with raising her daughter means that she relies solely on her 27-year-old fiancé's job for income. She says:

"We have enough money to live comfortably, but saving up money to have our dream wedding would take years."

Meanwhile, her 28-year-old brother is a "hospital doctor" just like his wife and they've chosen not to have children. She adds that she doesn't mind that they don't want kids "but they have been able to save a lot of money due to this" and "to say that they are well off would be an understatement." 

This led her to ask her brother for money "since having him contribute to my wedding would help make it a magical moment for me." After the brother offered to give £5,000 (around $6,860), the bride-to-be says she was "honestly surprised" since "surely as a hospital doctor [he] should be able to contribute more to [her] wedding." She instead asked for £20,000 (approximately $27,500) but her brother refused. This led her to tell him:

 "... his refusal to help pay for my wedding is selfish, and that if he doesn't help contribute to my wedding, then he won't be able to come, since it isn't my fault that I don't [have] a lot of money to fund my wedding."

The siblings had an argument afterward and she hasn't been returning his calls since. She states that the rest of her family is helping to contribute to her wedding "which makes his refusal even worse." Nevertheless, their father thinks she is "being too harsh" on her brother and that him not being invited to the wedding is "upsetting" for the dad. She ends her post by asking "Am I missing something here?" 

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It seems that fellow Reddit users didn't need to think about the situation for very long, as unanimously they voted that the bride is in the wrong here. Many called her "entitled" and "selfish," with one comment stating matter-of-factly:

"He offered you money and he didn’t have to. You’re entitled"

Many others seem to agree since the comment has been upvoted over 22,000 times. Another user wrote:

"I love how she "doesn't mind" them not having kids. How open-minded of her! And thinks since they made the choice to remain child-free and are doctors they should give her money or else they're just selfish, horrible people.

"OP, you made the choice to have a wedding. You don't need to throw a wedding that costs tens of thousands of dollars you don't have. Scale it back, have the wedding you can afford, and apologize to your brother for your selfishness."

The point about having a less expensive wedding was backed by others, with another comment stating:

"Yes it is your fault you don't have a lot of money for your wedding. If you can't afford a £20,000 wedding then don't have one."

Meanwhile, others were so shocked at how unaware and entitled the bride is in the situation that they were convinced the entire post was the work of an internet troll — someone who posts controversial things online in order to provoke readers. Whether it's a fake story or a truthful one, Reddit made it clear that the bride was very much in the wrong here.  

What do you think about this story — was the bride or her brother in the wrong in this situation? Do you know of anything similar happening to anyone you know personally? Let us know and pass this on so others can weigh in on this too.