Bride Wants Nephew-To-Be To Chop His Hair To Fit In With Her Wedding Party

May 20, 2021 by apost team

Weddings are usually one of the most special days in someone's life. For guests at weddings, it's a wonderful thing to witness two people share their love with their nearest and dearest, which makes them not only special for the bride and groom but for everyone included.

Because of how special the day is, it makes sense that the bride and groom want it to go just perfectly. However, that can create a lot of pressure and stress, and it's why there is a reputation for some brides to turn into monsters — known as "bridezillas" — as they plan their nuptials.

One recent story that was shared on Reddit shows just how far some brides are willing to go for the idea of their perfect wedding — and they'll stop at nothing to get it, even if it means creating family drama.

In the story recounted by Reddit user Not_a_cat19, the woman explains how her 15-year-old son was asked to be a "flower dude" at her brother's wedding. Despite her son wearing his thick, curly hair long with the plan of growing it out to a specific goal, the bride kept continually making comments about the fact he'll have to cut it to be part of the bridal party.

The agreement was initially for the woman's son to style it nicely for the day, but as the wedding loomed closer the bridezilla got the family involved and gave the boy an ultimatum. Let's take a look at this cautionary tale of what not to do when you want a family member to partake in your wedding.

The Reddit user telling the story posted to the subreddit AmITheA**hole — which makes it unclear exactly how this story will go. She begins by explaining that it's her first-ever post and laying down the facts:

"My 15-year old son was asked in January to be the ‘flower dude’ in my brother’s wedding (which will be end of this month). Since then, my STBSIL has made frequent comments to my son along the lines of “so what are we going to do about this hair?” (He has thick, curly hair that he’s been growing out for a little while now; he’s got a goal photo we’ve been showing to his hairdresser)."

She goes on to explain that she had communicated with her brother that she will groom and style her son's hair, using hair products to tame it and make it look nice, but that she was not going to make him cut it off. Sounds like pretty fair parenting so far. What's more, the woman's brother confirmed that was fine. 

Fast forward to a later date when the brother says that his fiance wants the flower dude to have a trial run of his hair at the hairdressers. It's at this point that the woman explains she's had problems with the fiance trying to dictate and control things before, for example:

"One time she told my brother he couldn’t accompany my son to the ER for stitches unless she could go too."

She once again told her brother that they will do a trial run on his hair, to which he replied that his fiance wants final approval. The woman then assured her brother that she will make sure her son's hair looks nice on the wedding day.

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But somehow this wasn't enough for the bridezilla. The situation escalated when the woman's stepfather wrote her son and threatened that he wouldn't get fitted for his tuxedo until the boy's hair was cut. She explains:

"His exact words were “no decent haircut, no tuxedo fitting, you will not be in the wedding but seated in the general audience with your family, that is the result of no haircut. Got it???” 

All this drama over a hairdo for the flower dude seems a bit extreme. But it doesn't end there. The woman's mother also wanted him to cut his hair and believed the woman should make him cut it as "it's a very formal wedding," and they should have understood that was the situation from the beginning.

The woman wrote her mother back laying down the facts — that if she and her son had known that was the condition from the beginning they would have declined him being in the wedding back then and instead wouldn't have been subjected to months of passive-aggressive remarks until she stood up for her son. The woman then explains how big the situation has become:

"At this point we aren't even going, because to me, kicking family out of a wedding party for refusing to alter his appearance when he has had this hair for years, is ridiculous. My family thinks I'm unreasonable for not forcing my son to cut his hair."

She ends with the question that the subreddit is about — is she the bad guy in this situation? Many of the commenters call the situation ridiculous and are firmly on the woman and her son's side. 

Who do you think is in the wrong here? Do you have any similar bridezilla stories? If you found this article interesting, be sure to pass it on to those you know!