Bride Wants ‘In Sickness’ Removed From Wedding Vows As She ‘Hates’ Caring For Sick People

May 05, 2022 by apost team

Weddings are something that loving couples are able to have and cherish for the rest of their lives together. It is something the couple celebrates with not only each other but with all of their invited friends and family. There is so much planning that goes into a wedding, including picking out flower arrangements, setting up decorations and picking out great food and music.

While these romantic ceremonies tend to be delicate and full of wonder, they can sometimes bring out rough characteristics in individuals. Sometimes brides can get a little on edge while planning their one special day, resulting in them being put into the “bridezilla” category. They may appear unreasonable or too demanding as they work hard to plan the most perfect day. Being able to control each and every aspect of the wedding is critical to these brides, as their ceremonies and receptions are extremely important to them.

For one bride, she was very happy about including traditional vows in her ceremony but wanted to tweak one line. Since she is not a fan of taking care of sick people, she wanted to exclude the portion that talked about being there for one another during sickness and health, as she really only wanted to be there during times of health and happiness.

The bride turned to Redditors in April 2022 to ask if she was wrong for wanting to do so. Her post was then deleted but re-uploaded the very same day – this time in the r/bridezilla forum. Netizens flooded the comment section, calling the woman out for her selfish behavior.

Starting off her Reddit post, the original poster (OP) said: 

“This is harsh but I hate taking care of sick people. My siblings and I were always taking care of our parents whenever they get sick and I just hate it, I’m sick of it and I hate feeling bound or obligated to take care of somebody, my life is full of moments and events like this and I just finally want to live my life to the fullest.”

OP went on to talk about how excited she is about her upcoming wedding, and she said: “I’m going to be married soon to my lovely partner and the best person in the world. I’m so lucky to have him by my side.” She said they planned to have traditional Christian vows in their ceremony, but with a minor tweak on her end. The vows the couple plan to use are:

“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance, and thereto I pledge thee my faith.”

OP explained: “I’m going to have an identical one to this one but without the ‘in sickness’ part. I’m going to replace it with ‘in happiness.’” However, this didn’t bode well with her fiancé. She added:

“My fiancé says that he will not accept this and he is very mad at me, he is even rethinking the whole thing,” OP said. “I just don’t want to take care of anybody sick and I think he is being very unreasonable right now, it’s just a marriage vow.”

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Since then, OP has wondered if she’s in the wrong for wanting to change the wedding vows as she really has no interest in taking care of sick people. Plenty of Reddit users flooded the comment section expressing just how selfish and rude they felt she was being considering she still expected her fiancé to care for her in both sickness and health. One user commented:

“‘In happiness and in health.’ So not only are you not going to take care of the ‘love of your life’ if he’s sick but ‘in happiness and in health’ assumes you’re only going to be around as long as things are good. Don’t get married, it doesn’t sound like it’s for you.”

Another person said:

“The phrasing of the vows isn’t the issue. The issue is that you only want a partner if he’s healthy and can do everything you want to do. But the truth of life is that we will ALL get sick.”

A third user added: “You can’t love people in slices. You have to take the good with the bad.” Others pointed out that OP should really consider her future as a partner and as a potential parent. One Redditor said:

“Shouldn’t get married if this is your attitude. Or be in a committed relationship, for that matter. Also, don’t have kids. I was sick a lot growing up because my immune system didn’t work right. So glad my mom didn’t ‘hate taking care of sick people’ and took care of me! My disdain for you has no end.”

What do you think about this woman wanting to change her wedding vows? Let us know, and be sure to pass this along to your loved ones, too.