Bride Tells Grieving Friend To Announce Stillbirth On Social Media Or Stay Away From Wedding — Says It’s Not As Though She Knew The Baby

May 19, 2021 by apost team

It is normal for a bride to expect and desire all of the attention on her wedding day. However, one bride took this idea way too far when she asked her grieving friend to announce her stillbirth on Facebook or she was not invited to the wedding. The bride said she thought the friend would steal all of the attention when other guests noticed she was no longer pregnant. 

This insensitive statement came two months after the friend had lost her child. Apparently, the bride felt that her friend should be done grieving by then because she never had the chance to get to know her daughter. The insensitive comment enraged the bride’s friend, so she went on to a Facebook group called “That’s It I’m Wedding Shaming” and posted the story for other users to react to.

The bride claimed she was trying to be nice with her request, but it seems like she was making unfair demands on the people around her. This type of behavior is what popular media refers to as acting like a “bridezilla.” The bride is so wrapped up in having a perfect wedding day she is letting her desire for attention ruin one of her friendships. 

The bride’s friend said that she would no longer be attending the wedding and that the friendship was over. The comments the bride made about her friend’s stillborn daughter were too much to forgive. After that the entire conversation was posted online in 2020 and the story went viral. The bride and her friend are from Brisbane, Australia.

The original post contained some background information from the bride’s friend, who also included the messages between herself and the bride in her post. The Facebook post and conversation screenshots were shared on Imgur for the world to see. The screenshots allow readers to judge for themselves if how the bride was acting means she deserves to be shamed online.

The friend starts off her story by explaining that her daughter was due the same month as the wedding. "This dumpster fire of a bride is getting married in early February and I would've been heavily pregnant as I was due at the end of February. But my daughter was stillborn in October," she wrote in her post on the “That’s It I’m Wedding Shaming” Facebook group.

After such a traumatic event, people usually reach out to their friends and family for support. "Up until now everyone has been understanding and kind to us," the friend wrote. This is why it was even more of a shock when the bride so callously asked her to announce the loss of her daughter. 

The bride’s message to her friend comes across as very unsympathetic. She starts off by asking if the friend is still planning on attending the wedding. She then adds, "I think maybe you shouldn't. I don't mean to be harsh but I thought you'd be over what happened by now, but you cried today just because some lady had a baby and it's just a bit dramatic and lots of people don't know yet because apparently, you aren't ready to tell people." 

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To add insult to injury, the bride claimed, "I'm trying to be as nice about this as I can.” She then elaborated, “Everyone will be asking why you aren't pregnant and I don't want them to be distracted from making me feel special. What happened sucks but I thought you'd had long enough to get over it so it wouldn't be a problem."

The bride added that the friend should announce her stillbirth on social media so that people wouldn't "wonder" why she isn't pregnant at the wedding. 

After that, the friend began to lose her temper and responded back with disbelief. "So let me get this straight, you don't want me at your wedding because the fact that my baby died might ruin YOUR day," she wrote in her message to the bride.

Instead of demanding she be part of the bride’s special day anyway, the friend decided not to attend at all. "You know what... you enjoy your wedding without me," she told the bride. The friendship was over. "I hope our friendship is worth all the attention you so desperately need,” the friend said.

The bride’s response to this was incredibly unkind. After expressing again that the friend should be done grieving by now she said, "It's not like you knew her," about the friend’s stillborn daughter. The bride called her friend "selfish" and said that she was acting silly for ending their friendship over the disagreement. 

The friend decided to end the conversation after such a heartless message, but left the bride with this comment, “Tell (the bride’s fiance) that I will see him at the divorce party!” Clearly, she does not expect a marriage with this bride to last. 

What do you think about this bride’s comments to her friend? Was it fair to request that her friend announce the loss of her daughter? Let us know what you think and be sure to pass this on to your loved ones.