Bride Stressed After ‘Narcissist’ Fiancé Insists She Walks Down The Aisle With 'Someone Else' & Not Her Father

Sep 30, 2022 by apost team

Weddings are special occasions that should be filled with love, joy, laughter and cheer. It's a day when loved ones come together to celebrate the happy union of a couple taking the ultimate step into a new life path. Without question, that happy couple should also be ecstatic about exchanging vows, enjoying the moment they officially come together as one.

For many young women, their dreams of a pitch-perfect wedding include all the traditional bells and whistles, such as having their beloved father walk them down the aisle. While this is not an obligatory gesture, many continue to do it as a way for both father and daughter to honor their familial ties and to pay tribute to each other's love – and even sacrifices – before embarking on a new chapter.

However, a young woman took to Reddit to share her harrowing story concerning plans for her father to walk her down the aisle at her upcoming wedding. She related that she and her father have a close and wonderful relationship, as he was a single father who alone raised her and her elder sister. Because of this, she naturally wanted to have him walk her down the aisle at her wedding. Unfortunately, her father and fiancé do not see eye to eye, and her soon-to-be husband has not only protested the father's mere presence at the wedding but wants her to drop any plans of having him walk her down the aisle.

The woman posted her account of the whole affair to the site on Sept. 26, 2022, in the hopes that users could provide her with some feedback on the touchy situation.

The woman recounted her dilemma by first explaining her relationship with her father.

"My fiancé (26m) & I (23f) have been together for over 2 years. I don't have a big family, just my dad and my older sister. My dad has always been a single parent devoting his life for me and my sister and working over 14+ jobs in the past 6 years to provide for us. I love my dad and we have the best relationship anyone could hope for."

She continued by saying her father and fiancé do not get along.

"They have different opinions on so many things. For example, my fiancé one time suggested to my dad to sell the truck he has because it's been sitting there for years. My dad got offended because this is my grandfather's truck and he has no money to get it fixed. Another example, my fiancé got mad at my dad at a party for talking about his struggle after my mom's death and accused him of collecting sympathy points but dad said that he always talks about it casually," she wrote.

"Their recent disagreement was when my dad refused to give my fiance money to contribute to the wedding. My fiancé complained but I said that my dad isn't obligated to pay for the wedding," she added.

"My fiancé told me to look for 'someone else' to walk me down the aisle... He said that my dad refused to help with the wedding and he should be grateful he's still invited. I got upset and argued that for one, my dad refused to contribute because he has no money, he can not afford to pay. And two, just like any bride I want my dad to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day," she wrote.

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The fiancé was upset after the woman refused to go along with his "suggestion."

"He threw a fit saying that I was trying to ruin his mood and get him upset on our wedding day but I called him selfish for wanting to take away the moment I always dreamed of (sounds cliché but I'm like that) over his disagreements with dad. It's not fair given that me and my dad are on great terms. He yelled at me for calling him selfish although it's our wedding not just mine and said that I clearly don't give a hoot if he's uncomfortable then walked out."

Redditors were almost unanimous in slamming the fiancé, and many questioned why the woman even wanted to marry such a horrendous man in the first place.

"If you're so close to your dad, why are you marrying someone who so clearly doesn't respect him? He doesn't have to be best friends with the guy, but some common decency is the bare minimum when you (and by extension your family) will be tied to this man for life," one user wrote.

"Your fiancé poor-shames your father, mocks his emotions and sentimentality, and accuses a person who has a healthy way of dealing with past grief of being manipulative. He thinks he has a veto in the wedding and accuses you of hurting him for wanting your father to walk you down the aisle. Though I kind of agree that your father shouldn't be walking you down the aisle, because you should not be marrying this man… your boyfriend is a narcissist and he will get worse over time. The way he treats your father now he'll start treating you," another comment read.

One user had a short but poignant way of putting things, saying only:

"RUN."

What do you think about the woman's fiancé? Do you think him asking her not to have her father walk her down the aisle is justified? Let us know, and be sure to pass this on to friends, family and loved ones.