Bride Irate After Learning Her Sister-In-Law Was Planning On Sneaking Her Kids Into Her Child-Free Wedding

May 18, 2021 by apost team

Weddings come with a million little tasks to prepare for the big day. One of the more challenging responsibilities is deciding who to invite. This becomes even harder when you need to limit your guests due to a global pandemic. This is the challenge one bride had to face when she announced that her wedding would be child-free due to health concerns for some of the other guests. 

After facing backlash from her sister-in-law for the decision, the bride took to Reddit to get some outside opinions on the topic. Her post from April 2021 explained that despite speaking in-depth about their reasons for not allowing kids to the wedding, her sister-in-law still planned on bringing her children anyway. The bride's soon-to-be niece and nephew are ages 7 and 4. 

The sister-in-law claims that the children will be very upset if they can't attend the wedding and that there is nobody she trusts to take care of them in her absence. The bride feels that the soon-to-be sister-in-law is rejecting all attempts to help the situation on purpose in order to wear the couple down and force them to comply with her wishes. 

The bride was filled with anger over the disagreement and decided to ask strangers online who they thought was right in this situation. The general consensus of the commenters was that the bride was in the right, and the sister-in-law should honor her decision to not allow children at the wedding. 

Read on to learn more about the bride's reasoning, as well as how people are reacting online. 

The bride explained the reasoning for the couple's decision. "While we adore children, we've been very open, honest, and communicative for the last five months with all our guests that due to ongoing global issues at hand …. and having a number of attendees to our wedding that are higher risk for issues related to that global issue, we will not be extending wedding invitations to any children under the age of 13. We 100% agree this is the best decision to help us drastically reduce headcount and feel confident in going forward with our wedding as planned," the bride wrote on Reddit. 

The bride then elaborated on why the sister-in-law refuses to follow the rules. She added, "My soon to be sister in law threw a fit- she said that because her children are my fiancé's niece and nephew they should receive an invite anyway and are more important than all my little cousins (which really offended me because I'm very close to my cousins), my parents were 'unreasonable', that her 7-year-old is 'heartbroken' and will 'never recover from this,' that she doesn't trust anyone to watch her children because they are 'all perverts.'"

The bride does not feel she should have to compromise on this issue. "The fact she was planning on sneaking behind our backs to bring her kids anyway, makes me really mad. Is my anger at her inability to respect our wishes clouding my judgment that his little niece and nephew should be there … I also think it would be horribly insulting to my family that we allowed only her children to come," her post read. 

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Many people had advice for the bride in the comments on the post. One person suggested, "If she brings it up again, tell her you've made up your mind and you're not changing it. If she keeps asking, just pretend like you can't hear her until she changes the topic, or you could just walk away. If you're on the phone, just hang up. If it's via text, pretend like it hasn't been sent."

Others tried to warn the bride about what could come to pass on the wedding day since the sister-in-law has stated she would try to sneak her children in any way. "Your wedding, your rules. Be prepared for her to show up with her kids anyway to try and force the issue. A 4-year-old is going to be bored so is a 7-year-old. I doubt they want to come and she's just using them as an excuse," one commenter wrote.

The bride responded to that comment and said, "That's what I think, too, honestly. We are thinking we'll go ahead and make our coordinator, wedding team, and the security that comes with the venue to be aware to turn away anyone who shows up with a kid. Wish it didn't have to be that way." She seems remorseful about the situation but won't change her mind because it compromises the safety of her guests. 

In the end, the couple did not give in as they felt having children at the wedding would risk the health of their older guests. They have a plan in place in case anyone shows with children on the big day and are hoping for the best. 

What do you think about this situation? Is the bride wrong for not wanting children at her wedding? Let us know your thoughts, and don't forget to pass this along to your loved ones.