Bride & Groom Praised For Eloping Due To Their Families’ Intense Interference In Their Nuptials

Feb 23, 2023 by apost team

Weddings should be a happy time for couples, as well as their beloved family members. If anything, it is a celebration of the union between two hearts and souls as they make their foray into a new chapter of their lives. However, for one man, that celebration never came to pass because of the intense bickering and disagreements between both the bride and groom’s families over the actual ceremony. When the conflicts became too much for the couple to bear, they did the only thing they could think of to end the drama – they eloped. 

Naturally, both families were unhappy with their decision and the groom took to Reddit to get the community’s opinion on whether he and his newly wedded wife had done the right thing.

In a post shared on the AITA Reddit forum on April 23, 2021, the man started off by describing the families’ involvement in the planning process as a “complete nightmare.”

“Me M31 and my wife F26 have big families. Both families were excited to share our special day and they came up with suggestions during wedding planning phase which was a complete nightmare,” he wrote. He added that the inability of the two sides to come to certain decisions even lead to the postponement of the big day.

“Both families sent long lists of guests, when I told them they needed to cut down the list cause we couldn't afford many people. Both families refused and tried to exclude each others. The wedding date got rescheduled several times cause both families couldn't agree on a specific date. This went on for 6 months!”

Another issue became some family members’s involvement in the wedding proceedings.

He wrote in the post: “My sister wanted to be one of my wife's bridesmaids but my wife already arranged for that. My brother-in-law wanted to be my best man but I already had my friend as best man.” 

Even his mother tried to push his wife-to-be into choosing a wedding dress she preferred.

“They argued about everything from the music to the menu, I had a family member write my own speech for me saying he was helping. And Mom wanted my wife to buy the wedding dress SHE liked. This caused both families to argue I was getting fed up but they said They just wanted to share our special day with us,” he wrote.

“Me and my wife come from different towns. My parents insisted to have the wedding in our hometown. While my in-laws demanded to have it in their town. Every night they'd call with ultimatums making this their hill to die on,” he said. 

They then decided to elope, after which they got the families together to tell them the news.

“My wife and I stood in the middle of the living room took a deep breath. I counted to 3 then we said it together ‘we eloped!’” he stated.

Naturally, it didn’t go down well. “The room went quiet. My dad yelled ‘my diabetes!’ as in he was in shock. … My mother-in-law blew up and started yelling asking how we could do this to them and act so selfishly towards the people who wanted to share our joy. Now we took that away from them and asked what their guests were going to think after what we pulled,” he wrote.

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Although the man tried to get his family to understand their reasons for eloping, they couldn’t accept them. Instead, they insisted they were “not yet married and will never be til we have not one but TWO official weddings.” 

Comments quickly flooded in from readers who praised the couple.

“Good job taking back control of a situation that should be all about you and your wife and what you both want. It would not be a good idea to start off your life together in a way that would cause so much stress, and your families should be ashamed of themselves for putting you in a position where eloping was your best option,” one reader wrote.

“Weddings are expensive, time-consuming, and stressful as hell. And if that's not how you and your wife want to remember your union, then that's your choice. Not theirs. Period,” another comment read.

Meanwhile, one detractor had a different view and said, “Honestly, I don't know why OP and the wife allowed the families to even have a say in the wedding planning. If they hadn't allowed that from the beginning, they may not have had to go through all the issues they've been having with both families with a simple ‘Thanks for the suggestion, but we will be deciding on that ourselves.’ Why let anyone else decide what you should do on your wedding day?”

However, many readers found the most interesting aspect of the story to be the dad’s reaction to the news.

“The ‘my diabetes!’ moment had me rolling! They are too much!” one reader said. Another reacted, “I am DYING at “my diabetes,” which prompted the OP to respond: “Seriously, he got me freaking out for a second but he was fine. My dad tends to be overdramatic sometimes.”

What do you think of the situation the couple found themselves in? Do you believe they did the right thing by eloping? Let us know and pass this along to friends and family to get their take on the matter.